Obsessed with Understanding Shame ft. Elvira Hopper (The Brené Brown Inspired Series)

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05/19/22

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What is shame?

Brené Brown, author of Atlas of the Heart (a book we are obsessed with), defined shame as:

The intensely painful feeling or experience of believing that we are flawed and therefore unworthy of love, belonging, and connection. It thrives on secrecy, silence, and judgment, [growing] exponentially into every corner and crevice of our lives.

Shame is an often overlooked and misunderstood emotion. Many people do not realize that shame is actually one of the most damaging emotions and can lead to many other problems such as depression, addiction, and eating disorders.

In addition, it is an emotion that most people try to avoid. Unfortunately, this often leads to a cycle of shame in which people feel guilty or embarrassed about their actions and then feel ashamed of themselves for feeling those emotions. But, as our guest Elvira Hopper shares with us today, there are ways to break the cycle of shame and start working towards recovery.

Elvira talks about living out of alignment with shame for decades in this episode. With her hopes and dreams of being a jazz singer curtailed by her parents' expectations for her, she pursued an inauthentic 6 figure, award-winning medical and Big Pharma career for three decades. While lucrative, this led to several problems, affecting her marriage and life, before she was miraculously gifted with a fast and natural way out of her darkness.

Elvira fused her love for performing musically with her healing abilities. She became a coach, sacred sound healer, and professional jazz artist she always was at the ripe sweet age of 51, working and recording on world-class jazz stages with Juno award-winning artists. Her mission is to help co-create heaven on earth by helping heart-centered humans live aligned, authentic & fully self-expressed through her The Love Your Vibe Transformation.

What You Will Learn From This Episode

00:00 - The idea of shame

07:38 - Elvira's experiences with shame

10:11 - Feeling like an imposter and being out of alignment

15:03 - Breaking free from shame

18:04 - Tools for personal development and growth

18:58 - Place of service as opposed to getting off on your ego

24:31 - Going from shame to upping our game

Resources Mentioned

Brené Brown’s 30 core emotions: https://brenebrown.com/resources/list-of-core-emotions/
Atlas of the Heart
Lisa Pezik’s Too Big For Her Britches: https://www.lisapezik.com/site/toobigforherbritches
Stedman Graham and Elvira Hopper: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=etJRsCGgFxA

Connect with Elvira Hopper

Website: www.elvirahopper.com
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/evhopper/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/evhopper
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/evhopper/
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elvira-v-hopper-6199058/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-love-your-vibe-podcast/id1609928435

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Obsessed With This Life Hack That Will Change Your Life ft. Julie Lokun

May 18, 2022

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This is the one hack that can change the way you navigate life. In this minisode of Obsessed listen to Jules explain how you can deal with life's biggest challenges. If you are navigating parenting or a difficult relationship or career upset-listen to today's episode of the #obsessedpodcast.

We have no control in life. Period. As humans, we think we have control. We want to have control over our relationships, our careers and our kids. And when we are met with drama or trauma, we have the choice to react. This is the one thing we have control over. We have the power to navigate our reactions.

Breaking down this relatively simple concept into small, bite-size pieces will make it easier to digest the overall profundity of the 3 words. Understanding that you have the innate choice of how you respond to and process a situation can shift a bad day at the office to a productive day learning how to nuance challenging conversations with colleagues. (LIFE SKILL--SCORE) With a snap of the fingers- you can go from having a bad day at work to a day of personal growth.

EXAMPLE 1: UNDERSTANDING WHAT A NEUTRAL EVENT IS AND HOW TO REFRAME THIS EVENT* A neutral event is just that. Neutral. One without meaning. We as humans attach our own meaning to these neutral events. What if we have the power to actually change the meaning of an event?

The Obsessed Hosts LOVE the works of Victor Frankl. His book "Man's Search For Meaning" is a must-read.

The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.” ― Viktor E. Frankl

Get Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith.

We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living.

We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you.

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Obsessed With Saving The World ft. Corinna Bellizzi

May 22, 2022

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29m

Guess whose business bestie is changing the WORLD? That would be us and we have the do-gooder Corinna Bellizzi on OBSESSED! We don't mean she is a goodie two shoes-we mean she is a thought leader in sustainability and social impact. Corinna Bellizzi is Julie's co-host on The Mediacasters and an inspirational human who makes everyone around her better. Enjoy this reprise with our hero, Corinna!

In this episode, Corinna Bellizzi talks about living a sustainable life and making a social impact. She explains the importance of equal rights and equal access for all people around the globe.

She shares how she created formulas of herbal extracts that would benefit people's health. And how she collaborated with companies when creating affordable health solutions while integrating the elements of social impact.

Corinna reminds us that making small changes in our lives can be powerful. They can make an impact on people and the planet. She adds that we can create new habits that are enjoyable.

This episode is filled with powerful lessons that will help you live a sustainable life and impact society.

Corinna Bellizzi is a Social Impact Podcaster and Producer, Experienced Executive Leader, Natural Products Industry Executive, and Social Benefit Entrepreneur.

What you will learn from this episode

03:05 - What Corinna Bellizzi is Obsessed With

03:49 - How Corinna Got Into Social Impact and Sustainability

06:27 - Equal Access and Equal Rights

08:38 - Small Changes for Bigger Impact

15:25 - Sustainability in the Family

20:43 - Corinna’s Advice

Resources Mentioned