Summer of the Mentorship 2019 Week Five Lynn Hoffman
Don't Mom Alone Podcast
08/12/19
•39m
About
Comments
Featured In
Being a mom reveals your most broken places.
I often think motherhood would be easy if my boys behaved better. Or maybe if I read one more parenting book. Or if I finally caught the magical contentment unicorn just beyond my grasp.
Of course, none of those options really pan out (especially the unicorn). It’s my own junk. Every day the yuck in my heart rises to the surface. But with the pace of life and needs of my people, it’s hard to stop and examine the “yuck” more closely.
Recently our small group has been attending a recovery program at our church. Through some honest self-examination and community, God’s been showing me where I’ve held wrong beliefs. And how they impact my relationships.
Today’s podcast guest, Lynn Hoffman, helped start our church’s recovery program 15 years ago. And God also led her to write “Steps into God’s Grace”, a bible study based on the 12 steps of recovery.
In this episode, Lynn shares her own struggle with performance, people pleasing and codependency. She gives insight into why recovery isn’t just for addicts. And she encourages us to identify our own emotions so we can teach our children to do the same.
Recovery became a safe place where I could go and be with other people who were willing to be honest. Stop pretending and start talking about the reality of the problems in their life. And lean on God to change and discover new realities in their life.
Previous Episode
Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Four Helen Smallbone
August 5, 2019
•50m
Ever want to hear from the woman behind rock star kids?
In this episode, Helen Smallbone, mother of 7 grown children including Christian music stars Joel and Luke Smallbone (For King & Country) and Rebecca St. James, shares stories of motherhood and practical advice she’s learned along the way. She and her husband moved their family from Australia to America more than 25 years ago. It was a faith-building journey that changed their family forever.
“Sometimes when you face life crises what God’s doing is setting a new foundation. In this time, he took everything away from us,” Smallbone said. “We had no money, no resources, no family and no friends. But in that refining process, he gave everything back to us, but with a new foundation where he was the provider. He showed himself to be faithful for providing all our needs.”
- Stories of living by faith and God providing for the Smallbone family when they moved from Australia to America
- Homeschooling a large family and fostering responsibility and work skills in your kids
- Teaching family values while dealing with bad attitudes and behaviors in your kids
- Taking a “time out” as a mom to pray for your children and waiting on the Lord for breakthrough for specific ways to resolve behavior problems
- Focusing on the eternal value of building relationships with our kids versus the temporary focus on everyday tasks
- Spending time with children who may be acting out because they need more attention
- How quantity time often becomes quality time with our families
- Taking a traditional naptime or quiet time after lunch with fill yourself up to finish the day strong as a mom
- Keeping the communication line open with your children no matter their age.
Next Episode
Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Six Shontell Brewer
August 19, 2019
•59m
With the ability to connect with anyone, anywhere in the world, feels like we’re more isolated and ineffective than ever. But what if we worried less about making a big impact. And focused more on doing the things in front of us with quality and depth?
I’m a big fan of this week's mentor, Shontell Brewer. She’s a wise mom to five kiddos. And she has an excellent sense of humor. More than that, she has discipled her children well to love and serve others around them.
Discipleship can be organic. Keeping your ministry small enough. To be present wherever God has placed you.
In this episode, which originally aired as Episode 140 (Oct 2016), Shontell and I talk about discipleship during dinner conversations. She shares her method of asking really specific questions. And giving her kiddos a challenge for the day to love others in tangible ways (e.g., encouraging a 4 year old to compliment his preschool teacher).
My most favorite thing we talk about is Taco Tuesday. The last Tuesday of the month, the Brewer family serves up meat & tortillas. They invite coaches, teachers, friends, neighbors (any one who interacts regularly with their kids) into their home.
We love on our community one taco at a time.
I shared the idea with my boys and they wanted to do it the next night (“Taco Tuesday, but on a Monday”). I’ll let you know how that goes. We may go the Pizza Friday route (love our community one slice at a time).
Shontell also inspired me to help open my boys’ spiritual eyes. And to encourage them to fight over who is going to put the other one first.
What we chat about:- How women apologize for their carpet
- Keeping your ministry small
- Specific questions to ask during dinner time conversations
- How Shontell helped her daughter minister to her Starbucks’ manager
- Sending your kids to school with a basic challenge to bless someone
- Setting the habit of conversation and other family “norms”
- Learning to not be offended when our kids aren’t performing
- Parenting small with intimate corrective conversations
- The BEST idea to invite people into your home monthly–> Taco Tuesdays!
If you like this episode you’ll love
Promoted