Summer of Mentorship 2019 Week Six Shontell Brewer
Don't Mom Alone Podcast
08/19/19
•59m
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With the ability to connect with anyone, anywhere in the world, feels like we’re more isolated and ineffective than ever. But what if we worried less about making a big impact. And focused more on doing the things in front of us with quality and depth?
I’m a big fan of this week's mentor, Shontell Brewer. She’s a wise mom to five kiddos. And she has an excellent sense of humor. More than that, she has discipled her children well to love and serve others around them.
Discipleship can be organic. Keeping your ministry small enough. To be present wherever God has placed you.
In this episode, which originally aired as Episode 140 (Oct 2016), Shontell and I talk about discipleship during dinner conversations. She shares her method of asking really specific questions. And giving her kiddos a challenge for the day to love others in tangible ways (e.g., encouraging a 4 year old to compliment his preschool teacher).
My most favorite thing we talk about is Taco Tuesday. The last Tuesday of the month, the Brewer family serves up meat & tortillas. They invite coaches, teachers, friends, neighbors (any one who interacts regularly with their kids) into their home.
We love on our community one taco at a time.
I shared the idea with my boys and they wanted to do it the next night (“Taco Tuesday, but on a Monday”). I’ll let you know how that goes. We may go the Pizza Friday route (love our community one slice at a time).
Shontell also inspired me to help open my boys’ spiritual eyes. And to encourage them to fight over who is going to put the other one first.
What we chat about:- How women apologize for their carpet
- Keeping your ministry small
- Specific questions to ask during dinner time conversations
- How Shontell helped her daughter minister to her Starbucks’ manager
- Sending your kids to school with a basic challenge to bless someone
- Setting the habit of conversation and other family “norms”
- Learning to not be offended when our kids aren’t performing
- Parenting small with intimate corrective conversations
- The BEST idea to invite people into your home monthly–> Taco Tuesdays!
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Summer of the Mentorship 2019 Week Five Lynn Hoffman
August 12, 2019
•39m
Being a mom reveals your most broken places.
I often think motherhood would be easy if my boys behaved better. Or maybe if I read one more parenting book. Or if I finally caught the magical contentment unicorn just beyond my grasp.
Of course, none of those options really pan out (especially the unicorn). It’s my own junk. Every day the yuck in my heart rises to the surface. But with the pace of life and needs of my people, it’s hard to stop and examine the “yuck” more closely.
Recently our small group has been attending a recovery program at our church. Through some honest self-examination and community, God’s been showing me where I’ve held wrong beliefs. And how they impact my relationships.
Today’s podcast guest, Lynn Hoffman, helped start our church’s recovery program 15 years ago. And God also led her to write “Steps into God’s Grace”, a bible study based on the 12 steps of recovery.
In this episode, Lynn shares her own struggle with performance, people pleasing and codependency. She gives insight into why recovery isn’t just for addicts. And she encourages us to identify our own emotions so we can teach our children to do the same.
Recovery became a safe place where I could go and be with other people who were willing to be honest. Stop pretending and start talking about the reality of the problems in their life. And lean on God to change and discover new realities in their life.
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Adventures of a Boy Mom Monica Swanson Ep 254
August 26, 2019
•52m
Fellow boy moms, this episode is for you! This chat with Monica Swanson another mom of four boys and author of the new book Boy Mom dives into a lot of your questions about how to raise your boys to be godly men.
We talk about encouraging strong friendships between brothers, teaching boys to be strong AND gentle, and about the importance of giving our sons ways to experience excitement and adventure while getting some of their natural aggression out in safe physical activities.
“I am a big believer that boys were made for adventure that they need to have some excitement in their lives I think is just how God wired them. They're little warriors who need to experience some thrills. A lot of the trouble boys can get into is related to when they're lacking authentic adventure, when they're not facing challenges and overcoming obstacles.”
Monica has two boys out of high school and two still in the nest, so she offers a lot of hope for those of us in the trenches of parenting to keep pressing into relationship with our sons and to make the practicals of faith an anchor in all that we do.
“God is so big and so powerful and he can move mountains on behalf of your son. He wants your son's heart more than you even know. We get our boys plugged in everywhere we can. We want them to have so many positive spiritual models in their life that there's no denying that God is the best way to go. It about coming alongside them and saying, ‘This is for your best. God is for you. Let's walk this life with him.’”
What we chat about:
- Monica’s four boys and working with very different personalities
- Building healthy brother relationships and dealing with kids who hit
- Boys need to let out their energy with exercise and physical activity
- Setting healthy boundaries for your kids with manners and learning to laugh with them about it too
- Teaching boys how to balance strength and kindness by pointing them to the stories of godly men
- The power of shoulder to shoulder conversations with boys and why to keep pressing into conversation with them
- Motivating boys to get excited about school and finding hobbies and interests
- Ideas for how to foster adventure for your boys and learning not to parent from a place of fear
- Fostering faith in your sons through time in the Word, prayer and modeling
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