How to Get Reliable Info on Risk of an Expectant Mom Changing Her Mind? - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
09/28/24
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Question: I wanted to bring up something about your article on the risks for an expectant mom changing her mind. You have a point that says any placement before five months into the pregnancy is a risk. We recently had a match with a woman who was only four months along. We asked about this, and our agency tells us that there is no correlation between the time of the match and disruption. What is the truth?
Resources:
- Understanding the Birth Parent's Experience (Resource)
- Evaluating Risk Factors in Adoption (Resource)
- Choosing an Adoption Agency (Resource)
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Kinship Caregiving - Managing Relationships with the Child's Parents
September 25, 2024
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One of the hardest parts of being a kinship caregiver is navigating the relationship with the child’s birth parent. We talk with Dr. Joseph Crumbley, a social worker, family therapist, and author of “An Overview of Kinship Care.”
In this episode, we cover:
- Creating a Family listening sessions with kinship caregivers in rural counties.
- What are some of the complicating factors in the relationship between kinship caregivers and the child’s parents?
- Grandparents and other caregivers sometimes feel that the child’s parents will threaten them with taking the child away if they do something that the parent disapproves of.
- How to not enable the child’s parent but still have a relationship.
- How to set healthy boundaries for the caregiver’s and child’s best interest when you have years of experience not setting healthy boundaries?
- How to handle others in the family who interfere with the boundaries you’ve established?
- I don’t know if this is a question, but I really struggle with getting my kids opportunities to see their mom and siblings. All other siblings have been reunited, and I gather it’s painful for their mom to see the two that were adopted by us (she surrendered her rights). Although we live relatively close to them, we have only managed 2-3 visits a year, mostly because of long periods of no responses to my texts or last-minute cancellations of planned visits. Sometimes our adopted kids can’t even remember their siblings’ names and it just breaks my heart. I’d love for them to have a closer relationship, but I have only limited control.
- How to handle the anger, shame, guilt you feel at the child’s parents?
- How to support co-parenting when the child’s parent is still not in a healthy place?
- How to support reunification?
For more information please refer to www.drcrumbley.com.
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Parenting Children Who Have Experienced Trauma
October 2, 2024
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Are you often bewildered by your child's behavior? Check out this interview with Dafna Lender, a LCSW and a certified trainer and supervisor/consultant in both Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy. She is also an EMDR therapist. She is the author of “Theraplay® – The Practitioner’s Guide” and “Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship.”
In this episode, we cover:
Impact of Trauma
- What is trauma?
- Trauma vs PTSD vs. Development Trauma Disorder
- Neglect
- How does trauma impact the brain?
- How does this impact affect the child?
- Does the age of the child, when they experienced trauma, or the type of trauma affect the degree to which the child will be impacted?
- Impact of preverbal trauma- before the child has language and memory.
- If a child is able to leave the abusive situation, can it lower the impact of trauma or PTSD?
- Attachment trauma.
How to Best Parent a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma
- What is a typical behavior for a child who has experienced trauma?
- Internal working model formed with earliest caregivers that forms a template for future relationships with caregivers.
- The children often “reject you before you can reject them.”
- Importance of awareness of one’s own vulnerabilities and insecurities that may be triggered by caring for children with a history of trauma.
- How to help our kids heal and attach? Tips and Techniques.
How to Discipline a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma
- See behavior as developmental, not moral.
- Don’t spin into the future by predicting the worst. Deal with your fears.
- Recognize that ultimately, you can’t control your child. Understand what you can control, and you can only control yourself.
- Provide a balance of structure and nurture.
- Time-out?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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