Kinship Caregiving - Managing Relationships with the Child's Parents
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
09/25/24
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One of the hardest parts of being a kinship caregiver is navigating the relationship with the child’s birth parent. We talk with Dr. Joseph Crumbley, a social worker, family therapist, and author of “An Overview of Kinship Care.”
In this episode, we cover:
- Creating a Family listening sessions with kinship caregivers in rural counties.
- What are some of the complicating factors in the relationship between kinship caregivers and the child’s parents?
- Grandparents and other caregivers sometimes feel that the child’s parents will threaten them with taking the child away if they do something that the parent disapproves of.
- How to not enable the child’s parent but still have a relationship.
- How to set healthy boundaries for the caregiver’s and child’s best interest when you have years of experience not setting healthy boundaries?
- How to handle others in the family who interfere with the boundaries you’ve established?
- I don’t know if this is a question, but I really struggle with getting my kids opportunities to see their mom and siblings. All other siblings have been reunited, and I gather it’s painful for their mom to see the two that were adopted by us (she surrendered her rights). Although we live relatively close to them, we have only managed 2-3 visits a year, mostly because of long periods of no responses to my texts or last-minute cancellations of planned visits. Sometimes our adopted kids can’t even remember their siblings’ names and it just breaks my heart. I’d love for them to have a closer relationship, but I have only limited control.
- How to handle the anger, shame, guilt you feel at the child’s parents?
- How to support co-parenting when the child’s parent is still not in a healthy place?
- How to support reunification?
For more information please refer to www.drcrumbley.com.
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Question: Can I use my home study for a different type of adoption?
This question arises in the following types of situations. Someone is applying to adopt an infant domestically and gets a home study from a domestic adoption agency. They then decide that they want to adopt from foster care and ask if they can use their domestic home study for foster care adoption. Or, they have applied to adopt internationally and want to know if they can use their international home study for a domestic adoption or an adoption from foster care. Or getting a home study from a foster care agency and wanting to use that for domestic infant or international adoption.
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Question: I wanted to bring up something about your article on the risks for an expectant mom changing her mind. You have a point that says any placement before five months into the pregnancy is a risk. We recently had a match with a woman who was only four months along. We asked about this, and our agency tells us that there is no correlation between the time of the match and disruption. What is the truth?
Resources:
- Understanding the Birth Parent's Experience (Resource)
- Evaluating Risk Factors in Adoption (Resource)
- Choosing an Adoption Agency (Resource)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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