
An Adoptee's Journey
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
06/05/24
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Join us to talk with Cam Lee Small about his new book, The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment.
In this episode, we talk about:
- You wrote this book for Christian adoptees. Why that specific audience?
- Adoptees have been objectified, scrutinized, and infantized. Can you give examples of where you see this?
- The narrative surrounding adoption, especially international adoption: you were saved, you are better off, God called us, etc.
- Loss and grief that is inherent in adoption. Ambiguous loss and disenfranchised grief.
- Is trauma a part of all adoptions?
- What are the stages of recovery from trauma and how can adoptive, foster, and kinship parents help with this recovery?
- “The cost of gratitude-driven silence is high.”
- I am adopting (kin) a two-year-old girl and planning to keep her basic birth story as part of open conversation. She has details in her story that may be difficult to hear and I would like to keep those from her until she is much much older. Do you agree or disagree with this idea and why? How old were you when you learned your full adoption story?
- Your parents gave you full access to your records, which you could look at with them or alone. Was this helpful, and do you recommend this approach?
- 3-5-7 model for preparing children for permanency
- The reunion experience. Dr. Susan Branco’s seven themes of emotions that participant report from their reunion experience.
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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Question: Hello! I’ve been listening to the podcast for a little while now as I consider my desire to adopt. I’ve had many models around me who adopted their children, and although the process is difficult, I have a desire to provide a home to children in need. It seems like now adoptions are declining for various reasons, and I’m trying to consider my motivations and whether it is right for me and my husband. One of our considerations is that my husband has a physical disability, and I wonder if there is anyone or data about how likely/quickly it’s possible for someone with a significant physical disability to adopt (domestic infant or international). My husband is very physically independent and is the breadwinner in our family. We have not started seriously contacting agencies as we hope to wait a few years before considering starting our family.
Resources:
- Types of Adoption (Domestic, International, Foster Care)
- Choosing an Adoption Agency
- Affording Adoption
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Question: We’re 5 years in trying to conceive and I’m TIRED. I have an opportunity to adopt an unborn baby girl. My question is, does it get any easier dealing with the infertility, the failure, the empty feeling? Does your heart stop breaking every month when you know you’re not pregnant? I’m so afraid that I’m gonna get this little baby but still need more.... hope I didn’t offend anyone!
Resources:
- Coming to Terms with Infertility Grief Before You Adopt (Suggested Books)
- Parenting After Infertility
- Breastfeeding the Adopted Child
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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