Will the Pain of Infertility Go Away If I Adopt? - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
06/08/24
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Question: We’re 5 years in trying to conceive and I’m TIRED. I have an opportunity to adopt an unborn baby girl. My question is, does it get any easier dealing with the infertility, the failure, the empty feeling? Does your heart stop breaking every month when you know you’re not pregnant? I’m so afraid that I’m gonna get this little baby but still need more.... hope I didn’t offend anyone!
Resources:
- Coming to Terms with Infertility Grief Before You Adopt (Suggested Books)
- Parenting After Infertility
- Breastfeeding the Adopted Child
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An Adoptee's Journey
June 5, 2024
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Join us to talk with Cam Lee Small about his new book, The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment.
In this episode, we talk about:
- You wrote this book for Christian adoptees. Why that specific audience?
- Adoptees have been objectified, scrutinized, and infantized. Can you give examples of where you see this?
- The narrative surrounding adoption, especially international adoption: you were saved, you are better off, God called us, etc.
- Loss and grief that is inherent in adoption. Ambiguous loss and disenfranchised grief.
- Is trauma a part of all adoptions?
- What are the stages of recovery from trauma and how can adoptive, foster, and kinship parents help with this recovery?
- “The cost of gratitude-driven silence is high.”
- I am adopting (kin) a two-year-old girl and planning to keep her basic birth story as part of open conversation. She has details in her story that may be difficult to hear and I would like to keep those from her until she is much much older. Do you agree or disagree with this idea and why? How old were you when you learned your full adoption story?
- Your parents gave you full access to your records, which you could look at with them or alone. Was this helpful, and do you recommend this approach?
- 3-5-7 model for preparing children for permanency
- The reunion experience. Dr. Susan Branco’s seven themes of emotions that participant report from their reunion experience.
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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Evaluating Risk Factors in International Adoption
June 12, 2024
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Are you considering adopting internationally. If so, you really should listen to this interview with the great Dr. Dana Johnson, MD, PhD. He is a Professor of Pediatrics in the Division of Neonatology at the University of Minnesota Medical School. Dr. Johnson founded the International Adoption Clinic at the University of Minnesota.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Prenatal exposure to alcohol and drugs: How common in international adoption? How much and when in the pregnancy? What does the impact look like in an infant, preschooler, school-aged child, and older?
- Alcohol
- Opioids
- Cocaine
- Methamphetamine
- Marijuana
- Cigarettes
- Prenatal stress: Does maternal stress during pregnancy have a long-term impact on the child? Is this something that adoptive parents will know other than by assuming from reading the files?
- How heritable are mental illnesses?
- Depression
- Bi-polar
- Schizophrenia
- How heritable are the following?
- ADHD
- Intelligence or academic success
- Attachment issues: How common with international adoption, and what are the recognizable symptoms of attachment struggles?
- Disinhibited social engagement disorder. What is it, and how common?
- How common is Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)?
- Impacts of neglect: How common is neglect in international adoption?
- Impact of institutionalization in international adoption.
- Impacts of physical abuse: How common in international adoption? How often do referrals report physical abuse?
- Impact of sexual abuse: How common in international adoption? How often do referrals report sexual abuse?
- Impact of lack of prenatal care.
- How common are the following:
- Hepatitis B: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
- Hepatitis C: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
- HIV: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
- Congenital Syphilis: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
- Prematurity: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
- Low Birth Weight: What is the long-term prognosis of a child who was born with low birth weight?
- Cleft lip/palate: Where is it most prevalent? Long-term prognosis?
- Congenital heart issues
- Missing limbs/digits-amniotic band syndrome
- Albinism
- Dwarfism
- Most common special needs you are seeing.
- What is the risk to the child if the birth mother has/had tuberculosis?
- Other risk factors to be aware of.
- Tips for evaluating risk factors in international adoption.
- How to find a clinic that specializes in evaluating international adoption referrals?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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