Can I Adopt If My Husband Is Disabled? - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
06/02/24
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Question: Hello! I’ve been listening to the podcast for a little while now as I consider my desire to adopt. I’ve had many models around me who adopted their children, and although the process is difficult, I have a desire to provide a home to children in need. It seems like now adoptions are declining for various reasons, and I’m trying to consider my motivations and whether it is right for me and my husband. One of our considerations is that my husband has a physical disability, and I wonder if there is anyone or data about how likely/quickly it’s possible for someone with a significant physical disability to adopt (domestic infant or international). My husband is very physically independent and is the breadwinner in our family. We have not started seriously contacting agencies as we hope to wait a few years before considering starting our family.
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- Types of Adoption (Domestic, International, Foster Care)
- Choosing an Adoption Agency
- Affording Adoption
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7 Core Issues in Adoption & Foster Care
May 29, 2024
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Do you want to help your adopted or foster child work through the big issues they may face in life? Join our discussion of the seven core issues with Allison Davis Maxon, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. She is the co-author of Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency, The Seven Core Issues Workbook for Parents of Traumatized Children and Teens, and The Seven Core Issues in Adoption and Permanency Workbook for Children and Teens.
In this episode, we cover:
- The 7 core issues in adoption and foster care: Loss, Rejection, Guilt/Shame, Grief, Identity, Intimacy, Mastery/Control
- These 7 core issues impact all adoptees and foster kids to some degree and are crucial for adoptive and foster parents to understand.
- They also impact all members of the adoption or foster care triad: adoptee or foster child or adult, birth parent, and adoptive/foster parent. Today, we will focus primarily on how these 7 core issues impact adoptees and those who spent time in foster care and what role parents can play in helping their children process these issues.
- These core issues can manifest themself differently in children at different ages and stages.
- Parents can provide guidance and support, allowing the child to feel every emotion deeply. They can also use education, understanding, awareness, and acceptance tools to encourage the child to move forward.
- Loss.
- What have adopted and foster kids lost?
- What can parents do to help?
- Rejection.
- How have adopted and foster kids been rejected?
- What can parents do to help?
- Guilt/Shame.
- What causes adopted and foster children or adults to feel guilt or shame?
- What can parents do to help?
- Grief.
- What can adopted and foster children or adults grieve?
- What can parents do to help?
- Identity.
- What are the universal identity issues faced by adopted and foster children or adults?
- Additional issues for transracial adoptees.
- Having the label “foster” to your identity is shaming.
- Does openness in adoption “cure” this issue?
- What can parents do to help?
- Intimacy.
- What issues with intimacy are common with adopted and foster children or adults?
- What can parents do to help?
- Mastery and Control.
- What mastery and control issues are common with adopted and foster children or adults?
- What can parents do to help?
Our children can heal!
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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An Adoptee's Journey
June 5, 2024
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Join us to talk with Cam Lee Small about his new book, The Adoptee's Journey: From Loss and Trauma to Healing and Empowerment.
In this episode, we talk about:
- You wrote this book for Christian adoptees. Why that specific audience?
- Adoptees have been objectified, scrutinized, and infantized. Can you give examples of where you see this?
- The narrative surrounding adoption, especially international adoption: you were saved, you are better off, God called us, etc.
- Loss and grief that is inherent in adoption. Ambiguous loss and disenfranchised grief.
- Is trauma a part of all adoptions?
- What are the stages of recovery from trauma and how can adoptive, foster, and kinship parents help with this recovery?
- “The cost of gratitude-driven silence is high.”
- I am adopting (kin) a two-year-old girl and planning to keep her basic birth story as part of open conversation. She has details in her story that may be difficult to hear and I would like to keep those from her until she is much much older. Do you agree or disagree with this idea and why? How old were you when you learned your full adoption story?
- Your parents gave you full access to your records, which you could look at with them or alone. Was this helpful, and do you recommend this approach?
- 3-5-7 model for preparing children for permanency
- The reunion experience. Dr. Susan Branco’s seven themes of emotions that participant report from their reunion experience.
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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