The Real Reason Your Relationship is Sexless
Unshaming
06/24/26
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Do you have sex/intimacy issues? Then this episode is for you.
I was in a sexless relationship with my dream man. For years, I couldn’t understand what I did wrong, until this conversation. I sat down with Ian Kerner, sex expert and licensed psychotherapist specializing in sex. He’s the author of the New York Times best-selling book She Comes First (Harper Collins) which has changed so many of friend’s sex lives. But I discovered through his last book which really changed my outlook on sex. It’s called So Tell Me About the Last Time You Had Sex.
We cover:
The #1 sex issue couples face
Why porn might actually be a good thing
How to build your sexual intelligence
Why most of us go into sex only 50% aroused
How to talk to your partner about sex when shame makes it feel impossible
Why men in their 20s have more ED than men in their 50s and 60s
How to fix your sex issues
If this resonated, please share it with someone who is on their unshaming journey!
Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production, Publicity, & Board
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
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If religion ever made you feel like you didn't belong, this episode is for you.
I grew up gay, Catholic, and deeply ashamed. And most of my shame points back to the church. For the very first episode of Unshaming, I sat down with the one person who started to change that for me — Father Jim Martin, one of the most outspoken advocates for LGBT people in the Catholic Church today.
He is also the author of a new book called Work in Progress and leads “Outreach”, the ministry bringing LGBTQ Catholics back to the Church. He has over 1 million followers across social media and has become one of the most important and controversial figures in American Catholicism.
What we cover:
- Religious trauma origin stories
- The Church's treatment of LGBTQ people
- Why the transactional God doesn’t exist
- The recent sexual abuse settlements
- Father Jim grieving his mother who passed away this year
- Forgiveness and mercy
If this resonated, please share it with someone who is on their unshaming journey, and subscribe so you never miss an episode!
Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman, Multitude
Production & Publicity
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
Special thanks to:
Chip Conley
Larry Colton & John McCoy
Mike Phillps & Jay Morton
Bill Glenn & Scott Hafner
Robert Holgate
Jenny & Jude Gonsalves
DeeDee Towery
Kevin Palmer & Tom Ellicott
Michael & Laura Werner
Alex Berman & Alex Scotta
Steve Houck
Dave Koz
David Beatty
Paul Grossinger
Randy Quebec
Tom Viola
Broadway Cares / Danny Whitman
Julie Stampler
David Vogel
Brooke & Will Muggia
Judi & David Issacson
Reesa Manning
Kathleen Salemi
Cindy & Neil Lyon
Anil Crasto
Teresa Kersten
Cary Berman
Rhett Wilson
Tom Emrich & Jonathan Carver Moore
Nick Scandalious
Dixie Webster Davis
David Schutte
Stuart Spencer
Jay Kuo
Ned Lustbader
Ken Lustbader & Jay Kidd
Susan & Joyce Lowenberg
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Are you or a loved one in credit card debt? Then this episode is for you.
I sat down with debt journalists Jamie Feldman and Rachel Gayle Webster to discuss the biggest finding from their year-long investigation into America’s $2.27T credit card debt crisis. They host the award winning podcast Debt Heads, which chronicles their investigation in debt. And the villain isn’t who you think.
We cover:
- Why the economy literally depends on you staying in debt
- The 1978 Supreme Court decision that created America's debt crisis (Marquette National Bank of Minneapolis v. First of Omaha Service Corp.)
- Why the "get out of debt" industry needs you to stay in debt
- How your childhood shapes your relationship with money before you were old enough to know it
- The hidden connection between debt, shame, and belonging
- How to stop blaming yourself and start seeing the full picture
If this resonated, please share it with someone who is on their unshaming journey.
Executive Producer
Jordan Gonsalves
Producers
Amanda McLoughlin, Multitude
Brandon Grugle, Multitude
Editor
Deanna Chapman
Production, Publicity, & Board
Franklin Benavides
Morgan Jones
Ben Lauer
Dio Anthony
Larry Colton
Adam Berman
See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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