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Tom Bilyeu's Impact Theory

04/04/20

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On this episode of Women of Impact, host Lisa Bilyeu and her husband Tom Bilyeu discuss the tactics, strategies and rules of engagement they have used to keep their relationship strong and growing for 19 years and counting. They discuss how to avoid letting the small things frustrate you, how to lift each other up, and how to hopefully find a way to make this surprise quarantine fun and empowering.

SHOW NOTES:

How do you avoid getting annoyed with each other over small things? [3:39]

How to view everything that happens as practice, and then make it fun [5:50]

Don’t tell me I’ve done something wrong after I’ve done it [9:06]

Why you have to take responsibility for yourself instead of matching negative energy [10:23]

It’s OK to match your partner’s righteous indignation, but not their anxiety [12:42]

Do not tell someone they are being irrational. Wait for emotional sobriety [16:31]

How do you make space for yourself in a situation that seems impossible? [17:37]

How do you deal with a partner who isn’t willing to do the work in a relationship? [21:26]

Lisa talks about writing her “quarantine script” in real time [23:38]

What would need to be true for this experience to be positive? [25:08]

Why you shouldn’t let “dust settle” [27:06]

You have to know exactly why things are bothering you [28:38]

How to talk to someone who is agitated without getting them even more angry [31:55]

What is one thing couples can do right now to get stronger? [34:35]

Why you absolutely must take selfish time [37:13]

Tom and Lisa used to do relationship theory, which you can still find on YouTube [39:21]

FOLLOW LISA:

Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh

YouTube: https://bit.ly/2IAbTcH

Podcast: https://spoti.fi/2IEajGW

FOLLOW TOM: WEBSITE: impacttheory.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/33XrFYV FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2xDM4Xa TWITTER: https://bit.ly/39slhdy

Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?

If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.

Want to transform your health, sharpen your mindset, improve your relationship, or conquer the business world? This is your epicenter of greatness.

This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.

Subscription Benefits:

  • Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more
  • New episodes delivered ad-free
  • Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list
  • You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more:
  • Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement
  • Money Mindset: Business & Finance
  • Relationship Theory: Relationships
  • Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health
  • Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz

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Previous Episode

On this episode of Conversations with Tom, Jim Kwik and Tom Bilyeu discuss the power of the mind, the true formula for motivation, and the methods anyone can apply to improve and grow. They also delve into a wonderful conversation of their favorite comic book characters, explain why video games can be so helpful, and discuss why you should determine what your dominant question is. Check out LimitlessBook.com! Here you will receive the special preorder bonuses - A 10 day reading/memory program you get instant free access to AND a 4 week followup Limitless Book club where Jim will show you how to read, remember and apply everything in the book.

This episode is brought to you by:

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SHOW NOTES:

Tom talks about what power is and how powerful concepts can become trite [1:33]

Jim and Tom discuss it’s better to think of everything as practice and not performance [4:52]

Tom explains his methods of staying calm during video games and why he does it [8:53]

How do you instigate flow? How do you trigger it? [11:42]

Jim shares the story of how he heard the message of responsibility [16:01]

Being able to look nakedly at your inadequacies without feeling bad about yourself [20:29]

Tom discusses luck by sharing the story of how he met Lisa [24:27]

Are there things you want to get better at but you’re just not willing to put in the work? [31:37]

Tom brings up the fact that the world pushup record seems impossible even to him [33:15]

How do you stay energized and enthusiastic over decades? [44:40]

Jim explains his 3-part formula for motivation [49:30]

Jim talks about the necessity of energy and small, simple steps along with purpose [53:25]

Mindset is the set of attitudes and assumptions we have [1:00:49]

Jim and Tom discuss Bruce Lee and what they learned from him [1:08:20]

You’ll lose your drive if you’re fueled by other people’s expectations [1:14:54]

Jim discusses his mixed feelings towards professional fighting [1:22:26]

Predators don’t follow the same conventions that everyone else does [1:27:40]

The only people who will make an impact are those that intelligently break the rules [1:34:45]

We can attach to fictional characters as a template to make change [1:40:42]

What is your dominant question? [1:46:30]

The power of our questions determine our focus [1:55:29]

Jim issues a challenge to listeners [2:03:44]

FOLLOW JIM:

WEBSITE: jimkwik.com INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/3dzJwd3 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2QVQmj7

Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?

If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.

This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.

Subscription Benefits:

  • Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more
  • New episodes delivered ad-free
  • Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list
  • You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more:
  • Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement
  • Money Mindset: Business & Finance
  • Relationship Theory: Relationships
  • Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health
  • Power Ups...

On this episode of Impact Theory with Tom Bilyeu, Fran Drescher talks openly about the mistakes she made when first trying to heal, then describes what actually worked. She also details the efforts she makes to trust and take control of her body, discusses what it really means to live in the present moment, and even shares some simple actions anyone can take that kill viruses.

This episode is brought to you by:

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Butcher Box: Go to ButcherBox.com/IMPACT OR enter promo code IMPACT at checkout for $10 off your box.

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SHOW NOTES:

UHF is the movie Tom has seen more than any other [0:43]

What is the secret to overcoming trauma? [1:39]

Fran credits her closest friends with helping her deal with her most severe trauma [7:57]

Fran talks about how her dogs have also helped her, and why her dog now is part wolf [12:40]

Fran did make the mistake of trying to be superwoman, and trying to ignore her pain [14:00]

Fran discusses the way emotional trauma lodges itself in specific areas of the body [17:22]

Why you have to get comfortable sitting with your pain [20:37]

Buddhism helped Fran become more present [22:59]

Time escapes us because we dwell in the future or the past [25:47]

Look around yourself. Notice where you are. [28:33]

Fran continued her friendship with the woman who was raped in her home [30:33]

Fran talks about how experiencing cancer makes it harder to trust your body [32:16]

Why you have to take control of your body, especially in the midst of a pandemic [35:28]

Honor your body [38:39] Fran discusses common household products that are making us sick [40:08]

Fran explains what grounding is and why it matters [41:10]

Fran talks about simple actions and remedies that kill viruses [44:22]

Laughter really is the best medicine [45:27]

Fran shares the impact she wants to have on the world [50:47]

FOLLOW FRAN:

INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/39x7Ad5

FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2w4A5Bi

TWITTER: https://bit.ly/2Jx6ALO

Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact?

If you’re ready to find true fulfillment, strengthen your focus, and ignite your true potential, the Impact Theory subscription was created just for you.

Want to transform your health, sharpen your mindset, improve your relationship, or conquer the business world? This is your epicenter of greatness.

This is not for the faint of heart. This is for those who dare to learn obsessively, every day, day after day.

Subscription Benefits:

  • Unlock the gates to a treasure trove of wisdom from inspiring guests like Andrew Huberman, Mel Robbins, Hal Elrod, Matthew McConaughey, and many, many, more
  • New episodes delivered ad-free
  • Exclusive access to Tom’s AMAs, keynote speeches, and suggestions from his personal reading list
  • You’ll also get access to an 5 additional podcasts with hundreds of archived Impact Theory episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists covering health, mindset, business, relationships, and more:
  • Legendary Mindset: Mindset & Self-Improvement
  • Money Mindset: Business & Finance
  • Relationship Theory: Relationships
  • Health Theory: Mental & Physical Health
  • Power Ups: Weekly Doses of Short Motivational Quotes

Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/3PCvJaz

Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast...

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