What Do People Really Want In A Partner? - Dr Paul Eastwick - #838

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09/14/24

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Dr Paul Eastwick is a psychologist, professor, and a researcher.

What do people actually want in a partner compared to what they say they want? Paul is the lead author on largest study of its kind which was just released breaking down exactly this question.

Expect to learn the #1 trait people actually look for in a partner, how well people know what they want, what Ideal Partner Preference-Matching is, the biases that affect mate evaluation, the sex differences in stated vs. revealed preferences, whether big data could improve dating app matching and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Do People Know What They Want in a Partner? (03:40) Distinguishing Stated & Revealed Preferences (13:52) Biggest Discrepancies in Preferences (18:21) Sex Differences in Preferences (22:03) Black Pills & White Pills of the Study (31:32) Why People Secretly Want a Good Lover (38:59) Unanswered Questions From the Study (42:42) Biases in Selecting a Partner (48:18) The Unexplainable Sense of Falling in Love (51:38) Traits of People Who Can’t Retain a Partner (54:45) Have Mate Preferences Changed Over Time? (01:00:52) How We Actually Think About Our Partners (01:05:29) Where to Find Paul

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