Understanding the Psychology of Perfectionism - Dr Paul Hewitt - #1025
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11/27/25
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Dr Paul Hewitt is a clinical psychologist, professor, and leading researcher on perfectionism.
Why do so many of us struggle with perfectionism? For some, it started in childhood—but its impact as an adult can be exhausting. So how do you actually break the cycle and get comfortable with things being imperfect?
Expect to learn what they archetypal perfectionist is and how they became themselves, the bevaviour of a perfectionist and how to differentiate between productive and toxic perfectionism, if perfectionism is related to burnout, why having high standards might not be a great thing, how to get out of the perfectionism trap, and much more...
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(0:00) The Traumas That Create Perfectionists (7:11) Inside Their Minds: An Imperfect Nightmare (16:30) Will Anything Ever Be Enough? (27:10) The Three Levels of Perfectionist Hell (32:51) The Link to Depression (38:23) The World Sees Through Your Mask (45:49) Performance Enhancer or Toxic Fuel? (54:08) The Standards That Kill Healthy Relationships (59:58) Why Imperfection Feels Like Failure (01:08:48) The First Steps to Healing (01:19:00) If You Have a Perfectionist in Your Life... (01:23:55) Dive Deeper
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The Art of an Authentic Comeback - Jon Bellion - #1024
November 24, 2025
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Jon Bellion is a singer-songwriter, producer, and artist.
Fame has a gravity of its own, and once you’re in the spotlight, leaving it isn’t easy. Yet Jon Bellion found more truth in stepping behind the scenes to focus on creating. Now, as a new father and a renewed artist, what gives his life meaning, and what message does he want to share with the world
Expect to learn why Jon Bellion is not touring when he has a new album out, why Jon Bellion stepped back from social media and why he has a fake Instagram account, if Jon prefers producing for other people or performing more, how becoming a father has changed Jon and what it means to be a good father figure for young children, what the current direction of pop-music is right now, what Jon would tell his younger self back in college about the future of his career and much more...
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How to Treat Men Better - Alison Armstrong - #1026
November 29, 2025
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Alison Armstrong is a relationship coach, speaker, and author.
Are modern gender dynamics leaving men feeling ‘castrated’? While men are often blamed for today’s social problems, far less attention is given to how shifting expectations of women and relationships may also shape male identity. What role do women play in this dynamic—and how can it be improved?
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