The Performative Male Epidemic - Louise Perry & Mary Harrington - #1021
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11/17/25
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Louise Perry is a writer, Press Officer for the campaign group We Can’t Consent To This and an author.
Mary Harrington is a writer, columnist and author.
Why are young people having less sex than ever? Has something in our evolution shifted, or has modern life become so confusing that we can’t even tell what we’re attracted to anymore? What’s really happening to relationships today, and is there anything we can do to fix it?
Timestamps:
(0:00) Could Taylor Swift’s Engagement Shift the Declining Birth Rate? (14:06) Are We Underestimating the Power of ‘the Auntie’? (22:44) The Rise of the Labubu Man (32:37) Do Women Prefer Labubu Men or Himbos? (49:18) Will the English Flag Start a Culture War? (01:01:30) Is Lifestyle BDSM Just Princess Treatment in Disguise? (01:13:20) What Does It Take to Form Good Men? (01:23:19) How #MeToo Changed the Way Men Approach Women (01:40:14) How Can Men Walk the Line Between Masculine and Feminine Energy? (01:46:04) Did #MeToo Kill Schlub Feminism? (01:54:31) Do Women Really Want a Shredded Man? (02:03:38) Are Progressive Women Turning to the Right? (02:13:23) Where to Find Louise and Mary
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Why We Fall for the Wrong People - Jessica Baum - #1020
November 15, 2025
•74m
Jessica Baum is a psychotherapist, relationship expert, and author.
What does it actually take to feel safe in a relationship? If you’ve had chaotic partners or a past where you never knew where you stood, safety can feel like work instead of something natural. So how do you rebuild that sense of security, and what steps help you learn to feel safe with someone again?
Expect to learn what the best definition of safety in a relationship is, what some of the signs for someone feeling unsafe in a relationship from their nervous system is, the common protection strategies and inner protectors people develop, why we confuse independence with strength, why romantic relationships reflect early attachment wounds, why anxious and avoidant people find each other so magnetic, how to retrain the body to feel safe after chaos and much more...
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(0:00) How Can We Create a Sense of Safety? (4:53) Are Independent Women Becoming Disconnected with Their Bodies? (13:26) The Power of Slowing Down: Why Our Nervous Systems Needs It (19:18) Why We Confuse Familiarity with Safety, Even When It Hurts Us (36:47) Why Feeling Safe Feels So Vulnerable (41:11) Anchoring, Co-Regulation and Reaching the Ventral State (47:11) Healing the Wounds You Inherited (54:02) Practical Tools For Building Safety in Your Relationship (58:42) Why Rupture and Repair is the Foundation of a Healthy Relationship (01:04:23) Should You Stay, or Should You Leave? (01:10:36) Where to Find Jessica
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How Did The Modern World Get So Ugly? - Sheehan Quirke - #1022
November 20, 2025
•115m
Sheehan Quirke is a British writer and online educator, known as The Cultural Tutor for creating accessible posts on art, history, and literature.
Why does modern life feel so devoid of beauty? For decades, efficiency has beaten out elegance. Cheap has replaced meaningful. When did we stop creating things built to last and meant to move us, and what would it take to return?
Expect to learn why contemplation is a luxury, or a necessity for sanity in the modern age, why we lost when architecture became more functional than beautiful, if Is there such a thing as objective beauty in architecture or if it’s purely cultural and subjective, which city or structure best captures the balance between progress and timelessness, if sterile architecture is one of the reasons the students of today are so bored and uninspired, and much more...
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(0:00) Why the World Desperately Needs More Charm (14:26) The Surprising Origins of Sheehan's Cultural Education (27:58) Is the Mona Lisa Actually Boring? (34:50) Why Liberals Shouldn't Ignore Traditional Architecture (54:07) Is Consumerism Quietly Killing Beauty? (58:19) Which is the Most Beautiful Place on Earth? (01:06:31) Why Modern Life Makes Romance Feel So Hard (01:22:02) How Does Online Content Shape Us? (01:32:21) Is Poetry Too Hard to Understand? (01:45:43) What Would You Be Willing to Die For? (01:49:08) Sheehan’s Vital Cultural Lesson (01:54:17) Where to Find Sheehan 01:54:17 Where to Find Sheehan
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