A Hostage Negotiator’s Hacks To Master Communication - Scott Walker - #669

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08/19/23

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Scott Walker is a former Scotland Yard detective, world renowned hostage negotiator and an author.

Having successfully resolved over 300 cases, from hostage negotiations to piracy, ransom and cyber extortion attacks, Scott has gained deep insights into how human communication works and today we get to find out his wildest stories and best tips.

Expect to learn how the science of negotiating actually works, the questions should you ask at the beginning of a negotiation to set the tone, how you can deal with overwhelm and nerves in high pressure situations, Scott’s advice for negotiating with difficult people, how to avoid the most common negotiation mistakes and much more...

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Timestamps:

(0:00) Scott’s Unique Background (03:46) The Reality of Kidnap Response (07:21) A Negotiator’s View of Human Nature (15:36) Differences Between Extortion Vs Human Kidnapping (18:20) Reacting to Apple TV’s ‘Hijack’ (22:16) Core Components of Successful Negotiating (28:50) Strategies to Build Rapport (31:03) How to Prepare for Negotiation (39:02) Balancing Empathy & Rationality (46:13) The Don’ts of Negotiation (51:43) Where to Find Scott

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How To Leverage The Psychology Of Power & Status - David Pinsof - #668

August 17, 2023

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David Pinsof is a research scientist at UCLA, co-creator of Cards Against Humanity and an author.

Humans want things. Then we tell ourselves stories about why we want those things. And these reasons are often very flattering, but almost exclusively bullshit. We do not understand our motivations, and this is part of our brain's design. So, given this limit on introspection, is it possible to ever truly understand ourselves?

Expect to learn the difference between bullshitting and lying, why we can’t we admit that we want status, why human desires are so fickle and silly, how the modern world has hijacked our status games, why we find certain things interesting, why you actually don't want to be happy no matter how much you claim that you do and much more...

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August 21, 2023

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Alex Hormozi is a founder, investor and an author.

Alex’s Twitter continually has been one of my favourite sources of great insights over the last few years. Today we get to go through some of my favourite lessons from him about life, human behaviour, psychology, business and resilience. Again, this is really good.

Expect to learn Alex’s most controversial opinions and mindset reframes. strategies to overcome self-doubt, why your revenge fantasy is a petty life goal, how to overcome regrets, how to hack motivation, the keys to avoiding a victim mindset, the only productivity tip that matters, where unbreakable resilience comes from and much more...⁣

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