8 Unexpected Lessons To Be Less Hard On Yourself - Oliver Burkeman - #840

Modern Wisdom

09/19/24

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Oliver Burkeman is a journalist, a writer for The Guardian and an author.

Does trying harder to be extra productive actually work? Does it net more success or just more misery? For the Type-A people in the world, how can we learn to be less tough on ourselves and learn to have more fun in the process?

Expect to learn what imperfectionism is, how to overcome decision paralysis & dealing with distractions better, whether or not there is an easy solution to imposter syndrome, the unexpected solution to fixing procrastination, the most effective ways to curb self-criticism, and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) What is Imperfectionism? (04:20) Stop Trying to Fully Control Your Life (13:24) Why Everyone Should Have a Productivity Phase (17:09) Defining Insecure Overachievers (25:25) Can You Rehabilitate an Insecure Overachiever? (32:41) How to Not Be Your Worst Enemy (37:18) Confronting Painful Truths (41:20) Overcomplicating the Art of Reading (52:27) You Can’t Care About Everything (56:16) Let the Future Be the Future (01:03:15) The Magic of Finishing Things (01:07:45) Removing Obsession From Consistency (01:11:38) How to Find Focus in Chaos (01:18:45) The Key to Enjoying Life (01:22:43) Where to Find Oliver

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