Confessions of A Bad Mom and The Shame of Motherhood with Julie Lokun

Confessions of a Bad Mom and The Shame of Motherhood is a real thing. Listen to this intimate account of motherhood and the grief we all experience.

Welcome back to OBSESSED! In this heartfelt solo episode, your host Julie Loken opens up about the messy, magical, and meaningful journey of motherhood—specifically, what it’s like raising four boys. Julie takes us beyond “how-to” guides or stories of perfection, sharing an honest love story marked by exhaustion, growth, guilt, and ultimately, grace. She candidly explores the realities of parenting—grieving your old self, accepting imperfection, laughing at fart jokes, and loosening your grip as your kids grow independent. Whether you’re in the newborn trenches, navigating teenage chaos, or cheering your grown kids from afar, this episode is a raw, compassionate reminder that you’re never alone, self-care is essential, and you’re doing better than you think. Stay wild, stay true, stay obsessed—this one’s for every parent out there doing their best.

Time Stamps

00:00 Pregnancy Experiences and Expectations

06:38 "Embracing Change in Parenthood"

07:22 Embracing Imperfection in Parenthood

10:53 "Self-Compassion and Resilience Tribute"

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We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living.

We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you.

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What Is The Enneagram ? Unlock Your Personality, Deepen Relationships and Transform Your Life

April 15, 2025

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The Enneagram Decoded: Unlock Your Personality, Deepen Relationships & Transform Your Life

Ready to understand yourself and others on a whole new level? In this powerful episode, we dive deep into The Enneagram, the ancient personality system that’s revolutionizing modern self-awareness, communication, and connection.

Whether you're brand new to the Enneagram or looking to explore it more deeply, this episode is your go-to guide for how it can transform your relationships, boost your confidence, and help you make aligned decisions in life and love.

We’re joined by the EnneaSisters—Kelly White (Type 6) and Jenny Wigglesworth (Type 1)—two dynamic coaches who use the Enneagram to help people grow, heal, and connect on a soul level. With years of experience leading retreats and creating powerful Enneagram resources, they break down this timeless tool in an accessible, actionable way.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What the Enneagram is really about—and why it’s so much more than just a personality quiz
• How to discover your Enneagram type (and what that unlocks for your personal growth)
• The biggest breakthroughs you can have in your romantic relationships using the Enneagram
• How understanding your type leads to better boundaries, clearer communication, and deeper fulfillment
• What makes the EnneaSisters’ approach to the Enneagram so unique and impactful

🔑 Timestamps for Key Moments:

• 02:48 – Quick-start guide to understanding the 9 Enneagram types
• 04:41 – How to identify your type (without overthinking it)
• 18:15 – Using the Enneagram to build healthier romantic relationships
• 23:52 – Strengthening your partnership with Enneagram insights

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Create a life you love and get Obsessed with doing things different with Julie Lokun, Mika Altidor and Tia Morell Walden.

We are your guides in personal development!

⭐Get OBSESSED with changing your life. We are all on a journey to do things better, consider us your guides to living your best life.

⭐Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, our website or most major podcast platforms.

⭐Visit our website and share your story! Home | Obsessedwith Life (getobsessedpodcast.com)

📩We want to know who you are obsessed with--Watch Us LIVE on YouTube Every Monday - @obsessedpodcast

⭐Join us as we interview thought leaders like Gary Vaynerchuk, Evan Carmichael, Dr. Laura Berman and MORE!

And learn about how we are changing the world every day: THE WOMEN OF OBSESSED

Get Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith.

We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living.

We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you.

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Near Death Experiences, Coffee with God and The Stroke That Saved A Life with Nancy Spano

May 8, 2025

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35m

Julie sits down with Nancy Spano, author of "Stroke of Love." Nancy shares her deeply moving story as a stroke and cancer survivor, wife, mother, and advocate. The episode dives deep into Nancy's near-death experience, her remarkable recovery, and the life-changing lessons she gained. Listeners will hear about the symptoms Nancy experienced before her stroke, the emotional impact on her family, and how her brush with death gave her a renewed sense of purpose.

Nancy Spano’s Story: www.strokeoflovebook.com

• Nancy suffered a stroke at age 46 in 2019.
• She describes the week leading up to her stroke, highlighting changes in her vision, behavior, and cognitive functions.
• Nancy recounts her near-death experience, including a profound spiritual moment where she felt guided to return and share her story.

Signs and Symptoms of a Stroke (as experienced by Nancy). Recognizing stroke symptoms early is crucial. Nancy’s story highlights real-world warning signs that saved her life:

Vision Changes:

• Nancy experienced loss of peripheral vision in her right eye. She noticed she couldn’t parallel park as usual (even referencing, “I couldn’t parallel park because I couldn’t. The peripheral vision in my right eye was gone.”).

Personality & Cognitive Changes:

• Her personality shifted—becoming irritable, frustrated, and more detached than usual. Her husband noticed the change (“My personality was changing... I wanted to unzip myself from myself.”).

Difficulty with Everyday Tasks:

• Nancy found herself unable to perform ordinary activities. She sat down to clean her vacuum but couldn’t remember how, leading to fear and frustration.

Confusion in Familiar Settings:

• Grocery shopping became overwhelming—she forgot why she was there, what she needed, and became anxious when unable to process labeled aisles.

Sudden Physical Symptoms:

• She lost control over the right side of her body, experiencing paralysis and an inability to use her right arm and leg.

Panic Attacks and Emotional Overwhelm:

• Nancy describes a panic attack in the store, feeling the urge to curl up and cry.

Seizure and Loss of Awareness:

• As her husband called 911, Nancy experienced a seizure and drifted in and out of consciousness.

Medical Causes

• Nancy’s stroke was ultimately linked to high blood pressure exacerbated by a medication (Effexor). She notes she was not informed about the risk or need to monitor blood pressure on this medication.

Why Awareness Matters

Nancy’s journey underscores the importance of recognizing and acting on stroke symptoms, especially in younger individuals or those who might dismiss early warning signs. Quick response saved Nancy’s life.

Common Signs of Stroke to Watch For (based on Nancy's account and general medical advice):

• Sudden numbness or weakness in the face, arm, or leg—especially on one side of the body
• Sudden confusion, trouble speaking, or understanding
• Sudden difficulty seeing in one or both eyes
• Sudden trouble walking, dizziness, loss of balance or coordination
• Severe headache with no known cause

If you or a loved one experience these symptoms, call 911 immediately. Time is critical.

LEARN MORE HERE: Stroke Of Love

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