The Right to Change My Mind Bruce Heather Ep 196
Don't Mom Alone Podcast
03/05/18
•45m
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Life is full of decisions. We do our best to choose wisely and follow God’s lead. Sometimes God leads us in a different direction. It doesn’t always make “sense” in the moment. And it definitely isn’t easy to share those changes with others.
It’s been over a year since we’ve given you a glimpse behind the scenes. In that time A LOT has happened in our world: new job, school shifts, adopting & “re-homing” a puppy. So I’m bringing my hubby Bruce back on the show to share one concept he’s used at work for years and he has helped me process the last year of change.
In this episode Bruce and I let you in on the thought process behind our life choices. Hoping this conversation will allow you grace to change your mind without the fear of what others think.
I reserve the right to change my mind and not have to explain it to you, but every person who hears about it wants to know the whole story. What I’ve found is people want to know the should. Every time I talk to a mom, they are feeling this pressure to get it all right, so then when they hear a story that doesn’t work out or where you changed your mind they are trying to analyze the rightness of it.
What we chat about:- What’s happened in the MacFadyen family in the past year
- Bruce’s current business, Door Real Estate Brokerage
- The mantra, “I always reserve the right to change my mind”
- Making the decision to send one of our sons back to school after a semester of homeschooling
- What happened with our dog
- Giving yourself freedom to change your mind
- Being gracious to others who change their minds
- Why we need to give our kids and ourselves permission to make mistakes
- Working to create an environment at home where it’s okay to change your mind and make mistakes
- In all of the decisions in life it’s about balance and listening to God’s voice
Previous Episode
Sinners Married to Sinners Cheryl Scruggs Jae Carpenter Ep 195
February 26, 2018
•66m
It’s not all sunshine and roses in marriage, even when both you and your husband follow Jesus. My guests today share about one of the most painful possibilities in a marriage —infidelity.
My friend Jae tells her story of learning her husband had an affair and the work God did in both of their lives to restore their marriage. Licensed professional counselor Cheryl Scruggs shares about her infidelity, divorce, and eventual re-marriage, along with a lot of practical advice and scriptures she learned in the seven years she was separated from her husband.
The main takeaway? HOPE. There is hope for your marriage. It’s not easy, because we’re all sinners, but God can heal and restore us when we surrender it all to him.
For all of us in marriage, I think it’s important that we are paying attention. In John 10:10 it says that the thief comes kill, steal and destroy, but I have come to give you life and life abundantly. God wants us to have a great marriage, not easy, not perfect. But it’s really understanding we’re both sinners and how are we going to walk this walk together in this relationship as a sinner married to a sinner.
**If you are in a relationship where you or your children have been physically abused, please contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or http://www.thehotline.org.
What we chat about:- Cheryl Scruggs and Jae share their marriage stories.
- Discovering God’s plans for marriage.
- Hope for restoration in marriage even after an affair.
- How do you know if God is asking you to stay in a marriage?
- Trusting God with your spouse and being open to what he wants to teach you and show you.
- Understanding our role as a wife God has called you to be.
- Recognizing the situations where it’s necessary to leave a marriage (physical safety, lifestyle of infidelity).
- It takes time for healing in marriage.
- Physical intimacy throughout marriage conflicts.
- Balancing advice from friends and family with what God wants for your marriage.
- Biblical roles in marriage.
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- Eph. 3:20 – Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us
- Matthew 19:26 – Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
- Deuteronomy 8:1-10 – Be careful to follow every command I am giving you today, so that you may live and increase and may enter and possess the land the Lord promised on oath to your ancestors. Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands... For the Lord your God is bringing you into a good land. [read full passage]
- John 10:10 – The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.
- Hope Matters Marriage Ministry
- Thriving Beyond Belief Podcast
- Cheryl and Jeff’s Book, “I Do Again: How We Found a Second Chance at Our Marriage–and You Can Too”**
- Song of Solomon: God’s Best for Love, Marriage, Sex and Romance DVD**
- The Power of a Praying® Wife**
- The Ripple Effect of Healthy Sexual Connection Francie Winslow Ep 138
- Sacred Marriage: What If God Designed Marriage to Make Us Holy More Than to Make Us Happy?**
- How to Save Your Marriage Alone**
Next Episode
Social Media Heart Check Eryn Hall Ep 197
March 12, 2018
•51m
Staying up-to-date on social media can so easily turn into an hour of lost time scrolling on our phones that leaves us discontent and disconnected with the ones we love the most. It’s a struggle most of us deal with in this digital age we’re in, and I’ve brought in my friend Eryn Hall to give us practical tips and encouragement on how to do social media well.
My highlight reel is going to look different than someone else’s highlight reel and that’s how it should be. We need to accept that and rest in the Lord. The grace and goodness I have and my acceptance, my identity is found in him and not in someone else’s social media.
If limiting your own screen time is something you struggle with, check out the apps in the show notes below to start monitoring your time. Ask a friend or GCM podcast club member to check in with you for accountability. Let’s live our lives for God and for our families first, not just for the social media posts.
What we chat about:- How to do social media from a Godly worldview
- Recognizing how social media makes us feel and doing a heart check
- Learning to rest in God’s approval and not in the approval of social media
- Stepping away and asking God, “Is this for me?” before responding to a place of potential jealousy
- Paying attention to whether we are finding our identity in God or in social media
- Boundaries we’ve put in place on social media
- Not looking at social media first thing in the morning and starting our day off in prayer so we are secure in who God says we are
- Healthy switches for spending your time on something other than social media
- Staying present with your kids with boundaries on your device usage
- Not immediately posting a picture of an event or activity and checking your “why” behind the photos and posts
- Be sure of who you are and whose you are before you post
- A cool story about how someone came to Jesus after reading God’s word on social media
- Being digital evangelists and staying faithful to the message of who God is
- Moment App for iPhone
- Quality Time App for Android
- Declare Conference
- Liz Griffin Instagram
- Joy is on the Other Side of the Screen (post Eryn mentioned she wrote)
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