Identifying Your “Wifestyle” :: Summer of Mentorship Week 3
Don't Mom Alone Podcast
07/05/21
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Our first year of marriage was HARD. And we hit another rough patch (a.k.a. the “come to Jesus” days) after our second son was born. I took all the marriage advice I could get.
For all you mommas out there looking for a little marriage help, I’ve invited Jen Weaver on the show to talk about her newest book, “A Wife’s Secret to Happiness”. This episode originally aired on March 6, 2017.
Jen is an adorable millennial who knows God’s Word and isn’t afraid to hit the marriage topic head on. She shares some great insights on a few controversial issues. But more than anything she helps us identify the marriage habits (a.k.a., “WifeStyles”) that are attracting or denying the blessings God has for our marriages.
What we chat about:- What is a “wifestyle”?
- Habits that can attract or deny the blessings God has for our marriages
- The slightly-controversial topic of “submission”
- Making room for your spouse to lead and space for the Lord to speak.
- What about when your spouse isn’t walking with the Lord?
- Wifestyles: “braided” or “frayed”
- What Jesus asked Jen.
- Wifestyles: “doubtful” or “decided”
- When you go through a relationship winter after a new baby
- Hebrew convo about “chayil”and Proverbs 31 woman who is a wife of valor
- “A Wife’s Secret to Happiness” by Jen Weaver ***
- Francie Winslow (ep 61-Power of Sex in Marriage &ep 138 Ripple effect of healthy sexual connection)
- Discuss the idea of submission the way it’s described in the episode.
- How can you choose to make space for your spouse to lead in your relationship? In what ways do you lead?
- Do you feel frayed or braided with God right now? How can you rebraid your attention back toward God?
- What was your most recent relationship winter? How did you come through that?
- What are your Proverbs 31 wife superpowers? How do you use your strengths in a way that blesses and doesn’t hinder?
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Mentoring Mom Insecurities :: Summer of Mentorship Week 2
June 28, 2021
•56m
This special episode was recorded at our first Live Event held in 2017. Guests, Kat Lee & Wynter Pitts shared their mom stories. And encouraged with audience with thoughts on mentorship, friendship and dealing with fear and insecurity in motherhood.
What we chat about:- Kat Lee and Wynter Pitts’ motherhood stories
- Dealing with insecurities in motherhood
- The importance of having mentors and deep friends in the motherhood journey
- Mentors don’t have to be older than you or available weekly. Find a way to make mentorship work for you.
- Think of areas you are struggling with and look for someone who excels in that area to mentor you, no matter their age
- Start or join a DMA podcast club as a way to connect with other women
- You can be a mentor too! Look for younger moms who need encouragement.
- We are never alone because God is with us, but it’s hard to remember that when life gets crazy. Kat and Wynter share what helps them remember God in the midst of life.
- “Should is not a sustainable why.” Don’t just do things you SHOULD do if you don’t have a good reason for WHY.
- Helping your kids develop healthy friendships and community
- Not trying to over control your children’s lives and praying through how involved you should be in their friendships
- Hope for dealing with irrational fears and grief
- Giving yourself permission to be honest with God when you aren’t coping well and realizing that he is good despite your circumstances
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Links Mentioned:- Music sung by Elena Pitts--"Even when it hurts" by Hillsong UNITED
- "HelloMornings" Book* by Kat Lee
- Start a DMA Podcast Club
- Paul David Tripp’s devotional, New Morning Mercies: A Daily Gospel Devotional **
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- She Is Yours: Trusting God As You Raise the Girl He Gave You ** by Wynter Pitts
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Breaking Up with Perfect :: Summer of Mentorship Week 4
July 12, 2021
•40m
If you've ever strived for perfection, then you know how it feels when you fall short.
Maybe you aren't the one carrying a list of all you "need to do to earn God's love." But more the type who carries a "Never Good Enough List” with all the reasons you'll never be able to earn His love.
Either way, Amy Carroll, (author, speaker, Proverbs 31 contributor) is on the podcast this week helping us break up with perfect.
In this episode (and in her new book), Amy helps us recognize the lies we have been believing and the Truth to set us free.
Lies like: "I was created to produce perfection" or "People are obstacles to my tasks" or "If I have the right stuff, my life will be perfect."
My favorite quote from our conversation was:
Only when I end my own pursuit of perfection can God do a perfecting work in me. --Amy Carroll
May you experience a supernatural freedom from the struggle to be perfect. May your friendships deepen, your family be strengthened and your awareness of God's love grow as you stop striving and surrender to His gentle heart work.
Connect with Amy:Breaking Up with Perfect :: Blog :: Facebook :: Twitter :: Pinterest
What we chat about:- The events making Amy aware of her perfectionism
- The impact a mentor had in Amy's journey to lose the list of perfect
- The supernatural work God did on Amy to break the shell around her heart, to feel His love
- The two perfect super moms in Amy's head--torn between two ideals.
- The destruction of friendship when perfectionism enters.
- The different types of perfectionists and their lists: good girl list or the never-good-enough list
- The possibility of passing on perfectionism to our kids.
- Courtney DeFeo--our connector
- Breaking up with Perfect
- Dr. Caroline Leaf
- Proverbs 31 Ministries
- The Opinion Blender--didn't mention in podcast, but found it on Amy's site. . .such great advice
- Have you had friendships end because of your struggles with perfection? When friends go through hard times do you wonder how to be a good, imperfect friend?
- Do you have a mentor? Is there someone you wish you could meet with? Could you make a plan to meet with her once in the next few months?
- Could you relate to Amy’s struggle to feel God’s love and having a list of things you have to do to be right with God?
- What areas are you striving for perfection in motherhood? Who is your mental ‘ideal’ mom? Earth-mama, right-on-schedule mom?
- Which type of perfectionist do you relate to—the good girl list or the never-good-enough list? Need to measure up or will never measure up? Or do you swing between the lists?
- What have you found helpful to break up with perfection?
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