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"How do I connect better with my kids?" [Ep 475] :: Summer of Mentorship Week 1
Don't Mom Alone Podcast
07/01/24
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Welcome to week one of the Summer of Mentorship! This summer we are answering your questions with guests from past episodes. We are starting off with an episode from April of 2020 (ep 280) with Rachel Macy Stafford, the founder of Hands Free Mama.
Rachel’s Hands Free Mama mentality is all about finding balance in a media-saturated, perfection-obsessed world. And it’s about seizing the little moments that life offers us to engage in real and meaningful interaction.
She shares a realization that she was not connected with her own people. How she was believing a lie that she needed to hide certain parts of herself, the messy parts, the imperfect parts, in order to be loved and accepted.Her “ah-ha” moment came when she vulnerably shared this belief with her daughter and found acceptance.
“Opening that door to being human actually brings us closer together. Then we can connect from that place of 'I'm struggling' and that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. That doesn't mean I need to hide it. It means I need to reach out and talk to someone about this so we can work together to see how we might go forward.”
From that place she has chosen to extend that same acceptance and found real connection. Which then helps keep the lines of communication open as they grow up.
“This is all about redefining what our role is as a parent. It is not the authoritarian model anymore. It is the guide, the truth teller and the encourager. Not the enforcer, not the half listener, not the critic. That those roles are only going to get us further and further from each other when the idea is right now we need to come closer.”
Connect with Rachel:
Rachel’s Hands Free Mama mentality is all about finding balance in a media-saturated, perfection-obsessed world. And it’s about seizing the little moments that life offers us to engage in real and meaningful interaction.
She shares a realization that she was not connected with her own people. How she was believing a lie that she needed to hide certain parts of herself, the messy parts, the imperfect parts, in order to be loved and accepted.Her “ah-ha” moment came when she vulnerably shared this belief with her daughter and found acceptance.
“Opening that door to being human actually brings us closer together. Then we can connect from that place of 'I'm struggling' and that doesn't mean there's something wrong with me. That doesn't mean I need to hide it. It means I need to reach out and talk to someone about this so we can work together to see how we might go forward.”
From that place she has chosen to extend that same acceptance and found real connection. Which then helps keep the lines of communication open as they grow up.
“This is all about redefining what our role is as a parent. It is not the authoritarian model anymore. It is the guide, the truth teller and the encourager. Not the enforcer, not the half listener, not the critic. That those roles are only going to get us further and further from each other when the idea is right now we need to come closer.”
Connect with Rachel:
- Website: handsfreemama.com
- Facebook: facebook.com/TheHandsFreeRevolution
- Instagram: @handsfreerevolution
- Twitter: @handsfreemama
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- Live Love Now [BOOK]
- Only Love Today [BOOK]
- Amy McCready--Positive Parenting Solutions
- Pre-order Bonuses--21-Day Self-Care Listening Plan AND 4 Downloadable Tools for Connection
- Ask “Heart Questions vs. Performance Questions”
- Practice phrases that take you “From Conflict to Calm”
- Consider if you are an “Easy-to-Be-Around Adult”
- Exclusive Phone Lock Screen - “Connecting by Protecting”
- What kind of parenting model did you grow up with? How has that model influenced your parenting today?
- Do you see your role as more of an enforcer or an encourager?
- What are some problem areas for your child(ren) that you can bring them in on finding a solution?
- Could taking the time to listen to them make a difference in how you both respond?
- What is one thing you’d like to implement this week from Rachel’s talk?
Previous Episode
Raising Critical Thinkers :: Julie Bogart [Ep 474]
June 24, 2024
•48m
Do you notice our culture (especially online) is full of people who all think their opinion is correct and want to argue? Do you wish you had the tools to help your child think for themselves and have deep conversations?
Julie Bogart; author, podcaster, and creator of Brave Writers; is here to help us teach our kids how to have critical thinking skills and how to use those tools as parents. In a world full of people defending their views and trying to convince everyone around them that their way is the right way, Julie shows us how to have real conversations. Many of us grew up with authoritarian parents and have moved all the way over to the gentle parenting side but Julie explains how both are not the best way forward.
She gives many ideas on how to approach conversations, especially with our teens, using imagination, curiosity, and empathy to understand them better. She teaches us how to pay attention in uncomfortable conversations and how that is a critical thinking opportunity. This episode is full of wisdom and tons of ideas on how to teach our children to think well. From how little kids learn through play to how our big kids learn through reading and expanding their worldview. The goal is to have deep and meaningful relationships that go far beyond their years in our home and this episode equips us to build better conversations and relationships.
Connect with Julie Bogart:
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Julie Bogart; author, podcaster, and creator of Brave Writers; is here to help us teach our kids how to have critical thinking skills and how to use those tools as parents. In a world full of people defending their views and trying to convince everyone around them that their way is the right way, Julie shows us how to have real conversations. Many of us grew up with authoritarian parents and have moved all the way over to the gentle parenting side but Julie explains how both are not the best way forward.
She gives many ideas on how to approach conversations, especially with our teens, using imagination, curiosity, and empathy to understand them better. She teaches us how to pay attention in uncomfortable conversations and how that is a critical thinking opportunity. This episode is full of wisdom and tons of ideas on how to teach our children to think well. From how little kids learn through play to how our big kids learn through reading and expanding their worldview. The goal is to have deep and meaningful relationships that go far beyond their years in our home and this episode equips us to build better conversations and relationships.
Connect with Julie Bogart:
- Website: Brave Writer | Writing programs and online classes
- Facebook: Brave Writer
- Instagram: Julie Sweeney (@juliebravewriter)
Links Mentioned:
- The Brave Learner: by Julie Bogart
- Raising Critical Thinkers: by Julie Bogart
- Becoming a Critical Thinker: by Julie Bogart
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- Crafting Your Family Culture :: Rebecca Hagelin {Ep 124}
- Parenting Ahead :: Kristen Hatton [Ep 409]
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Next Episode
**earbud alert–if you listen with little ones around may want to pop in the ole earbuds or be prepared to have lots of conversations ;) **
We kick off today looking like we are going to two separate events, with one dressed up and one in athleisure. Are you team shorts or team dresses for summer? We give some summer updates including how to feed ALL of the teens that are home and my 1980’s drink that is keeping 4 boys hydrated. Social media has us convinced that everyone is traveling to Italy this summer, was there a BOGO deal we missed?
Recapping the last month includes a funeral for our young friend Pike who lost his battle with leukemia and how powerfully his family honored him at the touching memorial. I was reeling emotionally going from graduation to funeral to medieval times with sixth graders then wisdom tooth removal for my college-bound son. Join us today as we get sidetracked and share the hard and joyful parts of summer 2024.
Connect with Cynthia Yanof:
We kick off today looking like we are going to two separate events, with one dressed up and one in athleisure. Are you team shorts or team dresses for summer? We give some summer updates including how to feed ALL of the teens that are home and my 1980’s drink that is keeping 4 boys hydrated. Social media has us convinced that everyone is traveling to Italy this summer, was there a BOGO deal we missed?
Recapping the last month includes a funeral for our young friend Pike who lost his battle with leukemia and how powerfully his family honored him at the touching memorial. I was reeling emotionally going from graduation to funeral to medieval times with sixth graders then wisdom tooth removal for my college-bound son. Join us today as we get sidetracked and share the hard and joyful parts of summer 2024.
Connect with Cynthia Yanof:
- Website: https://cynthiayanof.com/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/cynthia.yanof
- Instagram: @cynthiayanof
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- Country Time Lemonade Drink Mix
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- Heather’s Air fryer
- Audible Books & Originals
- The Silent Patient: by Alex Michaelides
- The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: by John Mark Comer
- The Women: by Kristin Hannah
- Greenlights: by Matthew McConaughey
- Funny Story: Emily Henry
- All My Knotted-Up Life: A Memoir by Beth Moore
- Zipper bags for moving
- Cynthia’s portable charger
- Stanley Quencher H2.0 FlowState Stainless Steel Vacuum Insulated Tumbler
- TRUE LEMON Water Enhancer
- The Jess Connolly Podcast Episode 8 — Jess Connolly— “Must Be Nice Disease”
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- Preparing Now for Future Puberty and Masturbation Questions :: Megan Michelson and Mary Flo Ridley [Ep 243]
- Birds and Bees (Continuing the Conversation) :: Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson [Ep 153]
- Sidetracked with Beth McCord :: Cynthia and Heather [Ep 473]
- Sidetracked with Toni Collier :: Cynthia and Heather [Ep 468]
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