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What You Need to Know About Open Adoption

Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

04/17/24

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Are you confused about having an open adoption? Do you worry about what this means for your family. Join us today to talk about open adoption with Sara Easterly, an adoptee, Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, a birth parent, and Lori Holden, an adoptive parent. In addition to co-authoring the book, "Adoption Unfiltered", they host a podcast of the same name.
In this episode, we cover:

  • What is meant by the term “open adoption”?
  • Contact vs. openness.
  • What open adoption is not:
    • Co-parenting
    • A courtesy to birth parents
    • Confusing to the kids
    • About/for the parents
  • What are some of the challenges of open adoption from the birth parents’ perspective?
    • Lack of understanding of what open adoption means when they place their child.
    • Renewed pain after each contact
    • Two vs. one
    • Lack of power
    • Fear
  • What are some of the challenges of open adoption from the adoptive parents’ perspective?
  • What are some of the challenges of open adoption from the adoptee's standpoint?
  • What are some of the benefits of open adoption from the adoptee’s perspective?
  • What are some benefits of open adoption from the birth parent’s perspective?
  • What are some of the benefits of open adoption for adoptive parents?
  • How to establish healthy boundaries with an open adoption, including both ways.
    • Examples of healthy boundaries from the adoptive parents’ perspective.
    • Examples of healthy boundaries from the birth parents’ perspective.
    • Examples of healthy boundaries from the adoptee standpoint.
    • Keys to establishing healthy boundaries.
  • How do you handle “openness” when birth parents are unreliable?
  • How to maintain an attitude of openness or the spirit of openness without contact.
  • Importance of birth siblings. How the existence of children that the birth parents are parenting affects adopted children.
  • Allow space for change and growth on all sides of the adoption constellation: birth parents, adoptive parents, and adoptees.

This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

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This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

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Question: I was the one who wanted to adopt. My husband agreed because I wanted it so bad, but now, I’m the one who wishes we hadn’t done it. We adopted a 5-year-old little girl, who is now 7. The awful truth is that I don’t love this child. I don’t even like her very much. I wish I could turn back the clock.
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This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

Support the show

Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

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