Raising Capable Kids (Regardless of Their Label)
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
07/24/24
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Does your child have a disability or have some label? If so, you need to listen to this interview with Dr. Deborah Winking, an educational psychologist and a special education teacher. She is the author of Capable: A Story of Triumph for Children the World Has Judges as “Different” and Raising Capable Kids. She is the mother of four, including one adopted child and one child with a neurological disorder.
In this episode, we cover:
Many of our kids have hidden disabilities caused by trauma. These disabilities can look like so many different things, including behavior problems.
You say these 12 habits are to change yourself, not your child. Why?
- Habit 1: Believe that effort creates ability
- Habit 3: Set a vision of capability with your child and adjust it over time
- Habit 6: Send capable messages: Use words and act in ways that let your child know that you think they are capable
- Habit 8: Challenge your child in ways that regularly take them (and you) outside your comfort zone.
- Habit 10: Allow your child to make choices and experience the consequences of those choices
- Habit 11: celebrate your child’s persistence to build a narrative of strength
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Question: I was just asked to take on a Spanish-speaking teen with a baby. Do you have any resources to address fostering a teenager with a language barrier, as well as supporting her in developing adult skills and independence? She comes with a complicated history involving immigrating here on her own.
Resources:
- Welcome an Older Child to Your Home (Resource)
- Former Foster Youth Voices (Resource)
- Helping a Child Heal from Trauma (Resource)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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Question: I’m a foster-to-adopt mom. I have 3 children. Two have already been adopted, and we are in the process of adopting one. My oldest son, who is 5 years old and turning 6 in Aug, had parental visits, but they were terminated when the parental rights were terminated, and he no longer sees them. It's been a year since the last visit. My daughter never had visits and doesn’t see her bio family, but I send the family a twice-a-year email with photos and updates. My current foster child, who is 4 years old, has once-a-week phone calls with his mom, who is in prison. My 5-year-old son is really struggling with seeing his younger brother getting phone calls with his bio Mom since he no longer sees his bio parents, and it’s hard for him to understand why his brother talks to his mom, but he does not. Each one of my child's stories is very different, but my oldest one notices the differences and doesn't understand why they're in the same family but have different relationships with past foster families and biological parents. How do I navigate this as he gets older?
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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