Predicting and Coping with Failed Adoption Matches
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
07/31/24
•40m
About
Comments
Transcript
Featured In
Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!
If you are considering domestic infant adoption, you need to listen to this show to better understand the possibility that the expectant mom may change her mind. Our guest is adoption attorney, Lila Bradley, who has practiced law relating to adoption and child welfare law for the past 20 years.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Distinction between failed match and adoption dissolution or sometimes known as disruption.
- What is the “typical” process for domestic infant adoption whether the adoptive parents are using an adoption agency or an adoption attorney?
- When do the adoptive parents legally become the baby’s parents?
- When can a mom change her mind and decide to parent the baby?
- Keep in mind that what prospective adoptive parents see as a “failure” very well may be seen as a “success” by the biological parents.
- Creating a Family resource: Failed Adoption Matches: How Common? How Costly? How to Survive
- What are some signs that an adoption match may fail and the mom will decide to parent?
- When is the most common time for a mom to change her mind and decide to parent?
- Does it matter what stage of pregnancy the match was made?
- How often do biological moms change their mind about placing their baby for adoption?
- Do adoptive parents lose money if the adoption match fails?
- Suggestions on how adoptive parents can cope when an adoption match falls apart?
- Do adoption matches with foster children disrupt?
- Do adoption matches in international adoption disrupt?
- Do adoptions disrupt after finalization?
Resources:
- Failed Adoption Matches: How Common? How Costly? How to Survive
- State laws on when expectant parents can change their mind about relinquishing their child for adoption.
- Children's Bureau
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Previous Episode
Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!
Question: I’m a foster-to-adopt mom. I have 3 children. Two have already been adopted, and we are in the process of adopting one. My oldest son, who is 5 years old and turning 6 in Aug, had parental visits, but they were terminated when the parental rights were terminated, and he no longer sees them. It's been a year since the last visit. My daughter never had visits and doesn’t see her bio family, but I send the family a twice-a-year email with photos and updates. My current foster child, who is 4 years old, has once-a-week phone calls with his mom, who is in prison. My 5-year-old son is really struggling with seeing his younger brother getting phone calls with his bio Mom since he no longer sees his bio parents, and it’s hard for him to understand why his brother talks to his mom, but he does not. Each one of my child's stories is very different, but my oldest one notices the differences and doesn't understand why they're in the same family but have different relationships with past foster families and biological parents. How do I navigate this as he gets older?
Resources:
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Next Episode
Drop us some Fan Mail. Thanks!
Question: I just became a foster parent of a 14-year-old girl. She came with a cell phone paid for by her prior foster family. I told them I wanted to take over payments. I also want to sit down with her periodically and spontaneously and ask her to show me what she’s been doing on her phone while I show her what I do on my phone. I hope she will realize she can tell me anything and that I won’t hide things from her. Is this a good idea? How should I approach it? Do you think it will build trust, or will she resent it?
Resources:
- Managing Technology & Screens (Resource page)
- Welcoming an Older Child to Your Home (Resource page)
- Raising Foster Children (Resource page)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
If you like this episode you’ll love
Promoted