
Kinship Caregiving: Managing Relationships with the Child's Parents
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
06/22/22
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One of the hardest parts of being a kinship caregiver is navigating the relationship with the child's birth parent. We talk with Dr. Joseph Crumbley, a social worker, family therapist and author of “An Overview of Kinship Care”.
In this episode, we cover:
- Creating a Family listening sessions with kinship caregivers in rural counties.
- What are some of the complicating factors in the relationship between kinship caregivers and the child’s parents?
- Grandparents and other caregivers sometimes feel that the child’s parents will threaten them with taking the child away if they do something that the parent disapproves of.
- How to not enable the child’s parent but still have a relationship.
- How to set healthy boundaries for the caregiver’s and child’s best interest when you have years of experience not setting healthy boundaries?
- How to handle others in the family who interfere with the boundaries you’ve established?
- I don't know if this is a question, but I really struggle with getting my kids opportunities to see their mom and siblings. All other siblings have been reunited, and I gather it's painful for their mom to see the two that were adopted by us (she surrendered her rights). Although we live relatively close to them, we have only managed 2-3 visits a year, mostly because of long periods of no responses to my texts or last-minute cancellations of planned visits. Sometimes our adopted kids can't even remember their siblings' names and it just breaks my heart. I'd love for them to have a closer relationship, but I have only limited control.
- How to handle the anger, shame, guilt you feel at the child’s parents?
- How to support co-parenting when the child’s parent is still not in a healthy place?
- How to support reunification?
For more information please refer to www.drcrumbley.com.
This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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Engaging Churches in the Foster Care Crisis
June 15, 2022
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How can churches support kids in foster care and prevent children from entering foster care? Join us for our discussion with Jedd Medefind, President of the Christian Alliance for Orphans (CAFO) and Amber Knowles, the Executive Director of The Riverside Project (formerly Fostering Family).
In this episode, we cover:
- We call it a foster care “crisis”. What does that term mean? What are the needs of foster children?
- What is each organization doing to help engage churches in caring for foster kids?
- What are ways people of faith can help improve the world of fostering if they know that they aren’t able to actually get licensed to foster?
- How can churches provide support for people once they are parenting kids from foster care—either through fostering or adoption?
- How can churches work to support birth families to help once the child has been reunified or to help stabilize them so that children don’t end up in care?
- How can faith communities get involved with supporting foster families and foster kids?
- The Jockey Being Family® Back to School Bash events will take place during the weekend of August 5-7th, 2022. These gatherings are geared towards foster and adoptive families with children 5-14 years of age. This is a chance to celebrate, educate, and empower families with a fun-filled and informative event as they prepare to head back to school for the upcoming year. Jockey Being Family® Foundation will provide grants for up to $3,000 to eligible organizations to help bring a Back to School Bash to your community. Together, we can be a much-needed support network for foster and adoptive families across the country. Email JBFBSB@jockey.com for additional information.
- More Than Enough
- Fostering Family and the Riverside Project
This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Please leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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How to Raise an Anti-Racist Child
June 29, 2022
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How can white parents raise anti-racist children in this time of violence against people of color and protests. We talk with Dr. Ann Hazzard, a clinical child psychologist who was on the faculty at Emory University in Atlanta and co-author of Something Happened in Our Town: A Child's Story about Racial Injustice; and Dr. Joy Harris, a Full-time Lecturer at Princeton Theological Seminary and co-author of The ABCs of Diversity: Helping Kids (and Ourselves!) Embrace Our Differences.
In this episode, we cover:
- Embrace Race.org. Founded by black and mixed race parents to provide resources for raising black children.
- One Talk at a Time https://www.caminoslab.org/onetalk Providing support for Latinx American, Asian American, African American, and Black youth and their families to have conversations about race and ethnicity. They have a separate section for Black, Asian, and Latinx parents.
- What is the difference between not being a racist and being anti-racist?
- What is wrong with saying and believing any of the following: "love will conquer all", “we are all one race-the human race", and “colorblind is best”.
Tip 1. Talk about Race
- Racism thrives in silence. Why are many white parents silent on raise in general and within our families?
- When do children start recognizes racial differences?
- When should white parents start talking to their kids about race?
- How to start the conversation?
- Fantastic resources:
- Diverse Book Finder https://diversebookfinder.org/books/
- The Brown Bookshelf highlights Black voices writing for young readers.
- The Conscious Kid https://www.theconsciouskid.org/
Tip 2: Acknowledging & Celebrating Racial Diversity
- Why is it important to acknowledge and celebrate racial diversity?
- How to acknowledge and celebrate racial diversity?
Tip 3: Recognize systemic/institutionalized racism and white privilege
- What do we mean by systemic racism?
- What do we mean by white privilege?
- How early do kids start defaulting that things associated with being white are better than being black?
- How can parents address institutionalize racism with their children who will likely benefit from it?
- How do we help teach our kids to understand power inequity so they can name it, unpack it, and dismantle it when it happens in the real world.
Tip 4: Talk about Violence Against People of Color and the Protests/Resistance
- Something Happened in Our Town: A Child's Story about Racial Injustice
- How much should we share with our children? At what age should we talk with them about these hard topics or is it better to shield them from such “grown up” problems?
- Talk about How People Make Change in a democracy.
- Not a one-time conversation.
- Appropriate conversation for age and developmental level.
- Should young children watch the news and videos.
This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building&
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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