Is Fostering Going to Hurt My Kids? - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
10/05/24
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Question: We are seriously considering becoming foster parents. We have 2 children by birth, and I am really worried about how this will affect them and what I can do to prevent some of the negative effects.
Resources:
- The Impact of Fostering and Adoption on Kids Already in the Family (Resource)
- Talking with your Resident Kids about Foster Care or Kinship Care (Resource)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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October 2, 2024
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Are you often bewildered by your child's behavior? Check out this interview with Dafna Lender, a LCSW and a certified trainer and supervisor/consultant in both Theraplay and Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy. She is also an EMDR therapist. She is the author of “Theraplay® – The Practitioner’s Guide” and “Integrative Attachment Family Therapy: A Clinical Guide to Heal and Strengthen the Parent-Child Relationship.”
In this episode, we cover:
Impact of Trauma
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- Trauma vs PTSD vs. Development Trauma Disorder
- Neglect
- How does trauma impact the brain?
- How does this impact affect the child?
- Does the age of the child, when they experienced trauma, or the type of trauma affect the degree to which the child will be impacted?
- Impact of preverbal trauma- before the child has language and memory.
- If a child is able to leave the abusive situation, can it lower the impact of trauma or PTSD?
- Attachment trauma.
How to Best Parent a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma
- What is a typical behavior for a child who has experienced trauma?
- Internal working model formed with earliest caregivers that forms a template for future relationships with caregivers.
- The children often “reject you before you can reject them.”
- Importance of awareness of one’s own vulnerabilities and insecurities that may be triggered by caring for children with a history of trauma.
- How to help our kids heal and attach? Tips and Techniques.
How to Discipline a Child Who Has Experienced Trauma
- See behavior as developmental, not moral.
- Don’t spin into the future by predicting the worst. Deal with your fears.
- Recognize that ultimately, you can’t control your child. Understand what you can control, and you can only control yourself.
- Provide a balance of structure and nurture.
- Time-out?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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What Parents Need to Know About Today's Teens and Sex
October 9, 2024
•55m
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Teens and sex are a scary topic for lots of parents. How can we impact our kids' decisions and what do we say? Join our conversation today with Dr. Debby Herbenick, a Provost Professor at the Indiana University School of Public Health-Bloomington, where she leads the National Survey of Sexual Health and Behavior. She is the author of Yes Your Kid: What Parents Need to Know About Today’s Teens and Sex.
In this episode, we cover:
- What do you believe a parent's role should be in sex education?
- How do you become an askable parent?
- How to talk with our kids about sex without sounding overly judgmental but also convey your values.
- 5 minutes a week conversations.
- The importance of having high-quality books on puberty and sexuality around the house.
- When to start talking about sex with kids?
- How to talk with young people about consent
- Impact of technology (internet, social media, ubiquitous cell phones, etc.) on sexual development.
- What are reasonable parental rules surrounding technology usage?
- Taking and sharing sexual images--how common?
- How should parents even start talking with their child about nude images?
- At what age should we start this conversation
- How to share the downside
- Pornography or sexually explicit media
- How common do kids access porn, and at what ages?
- Is viewing porn bad for kids?
- At what age should parents start talking with kids about pornography?
- What should parents say about porn?
- How to keep our kids from viewing porn?
- How to respond if we catch our kid watching porn or know that they have viewed it?
- Having these discussions when we haven’t had a lifetime of raising this child?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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