Can I Foster a Baby If I'm Single? Should I?? - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
09/14/24
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Question: I’m a single 38-year-old woman. I’ve always been interested in fostering, but I thought I’d wait until I got married. That doesn’t seem to be on the horizon, and I’m tired of waiting. Is it possible to foster as a single woman? Will it be too hard? I prefer a baby placed with me since I'm new to parenting.
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Intergenerational Trauma
September 11, 2024
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How can something that happened in past generations impact us now and affect the way we parent? Join our conversation with Beth Tyson, a childhood trauma consultant and former family-based trauma therapist. She is the author of the children’s books A Grandfamily for Sullivan and Sullivan Goes to See Mama.
In this episode, we cover:
- What is intergenerational trauma? In essence, intergenerational trauma is the passing of the emotional pain of one generation to another.
- What are some other names it goes by? (generational trauma, historical trauma, or multigenerational trauma)
- What types of events can cause intergenerational trauma? (personal and more widespread events)
- How can trauma that happened 100 years ago impact us now?
- What are the symptoms of intergenerational trauma that we might see in future generations?
- How to recognize behavior that is triggering intergenerational trauma?
- Researchers are also looking into the possible role of “epigenetic changes.”
- How do we know if what we are doing or how we are responding is the result of intergenerational trauma? Questions to ask ourselves about us or our relatives.
- ACEs Adverse Childhood Adversity study.
- How to heal from this type of trauma?
- Recognize that it exists.
- Basic background info can be used in understanding trauma.
- Become a detective of your past.
- What brings up big emotions in you from your child’s behavior?
- Apologize when we make mistakes. Acknowledge your mistake.
- Positive childhood experiences.
- Children need to be “claimed.” They need to belong and have one person who is committed to them.
- Traditions.
- Connecting to their history—cultural, religious, family.
- Put as many of their family connections in their life as is possible.
- Resiliency through moderate and predictable stressors. Ex. sports.
- Practical tips that can help you when you’re in the heat of the moment.
- Somatic stimulation.
- Recognize the arc of the behavior.
- Have mantras to help you cope. “My child is a good child who is having a hard time. I’m a good parent who is having a hard time.”
- For kinship families (although it can be applicable to all families), how do you deal with guilt that you potentially passed on your trauma to your child, and now the child you are raising is suffering as a result?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Unique Challenges of Aunts & Uncles Raising Nieces & Nephews
September 18, 2024
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Are you an aunt or uncle raising your nephew or niece? Or are you curious about the unique challenges these families face? Check out today's podcast with a panel of four aunts raising their sibling's child.
In this episode, we cover:
- Who are you raising? How old were they when they moved in? How long have they been with you?
- Didn’t ask for this.
- Less of a feeling of obligation than grandparents feel.
- Navigating relations with the child’s parents.
- Frustration with your sibling (the child’s parent)
- Long-standing resentment of the child’s parents.
- Navigating boundaries.
- Resentment if it’s your spouse’s niece/nephew.
- Navigating relations between other family members who have an opinion.
- Raising your own kids while raising your nephews and nieces.
- Jealousies
- Behaviors rubbing off on kids already in the family
- Lack of time for the kids who aren’t acting out
- Complications of being single and raising nephews and nieces.
- Putting off having children because of the cost and time commitment to raising nieces and nephews.
- Disagreement between parents on whether or not to take in the children.
- Uncertainty of how long the children will be living with you.
- Joys of raising your nephew or niece
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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