Gabor Mate on How We Become Who We Are | Conversations with Tom
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03/18/21
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In this episode, Gabor Mate explains how easily unconscious traumas from childhood can be identified. He shares years of experience and wisdom with Tom in this conversation that explores the depths of truth and meaning in life, and how that fits in with our physical and behavioral manifestations of broken adult expectations and stressors. Gabor Mate, is a deep thinker, childhood development expert, and expert of addiction. He shares his unique insights on how to deal with severe trauma and how to get the most out of life by moving beyond mere survival.
SHOW NOTES:
Reality | Gabor on how people view reality and the Johnny Cash song, In Your Mind [1:14]
Stress Defined | Gabor explain the terminology of stress and its triggers [5:40]
Emotional Work | Ongoing emotional work that takes consciousness and awareness [9:13]
Trauma | Gabor discusses severe trauma, how it shows up physically and in behavior [10:12]
Being Sensitive | Advantage and disadvantage of being highly sensitive [12:18]
Empathetic Support | Gabor talks about empathetic support for persons with trauma [12:43]
Beyond Mental | Gabor reveals makes life more profound beyond the mental experience [20:04]
Feeling vs. Being | Gabor presents difference between feeling and a state of being [22:11]
Self-Isolation | Gabor explores self-isolation and the state of pain versus enlightenment. [22:32]
Broken Society | how modern society is dysregulating us and how broken our society is [30:31]
Child Development | Gabor reveals what healthy child development [41:04]
Meaning & Purpose | Gabor pushes on Tom’s value for meaning equated with hard work [51:20]
Truth Not Facts | Gabor explains difference between truth and facts [59:54]
Life after 70 | Gabor shares what keeps him going in his seventies is just who he is [1:07:58]
Palliative Care | Gabor share his experience and perspective with palliative care [1:14:18]
Marriage | Lessons from 51 years of marriage [1:35:23]
Suffering From Past |Gabor shares a quote to explain how suffering isn’t always labeled [1:43:19]
Dissociated from suffering | Gabor explains pain suppressed and misinterpreted [1:45:54]
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March 16, 2021
•58m
Mental health and drug abuse continues to impact millions of people from all walks of life. Often drug abuse, trauma and depression are tied together and either mistreated or avoided. Families don’t necessarily know how to help loved ones come out of their dark place. In this episode, Coach Mike Bayer introduces several new concepts from his new book, One Decision. He takes Tom through his journey and reveals his experience with drug abuse, discovering his homosexuality, and what it took to get committed, find a new perspective and create his best self. Mike regularly appears on Dr. Phil, and has walked away from serving the entertainment industry to better serve people he connects with to guide them from discovering their trauma, surrendering, and making the one decision that will create a better life worth living.
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One Decision | Coach Mike defines “One Decision” [1:34]
Big Decision | One big decision [2:51]
Perspective | Looking at life through the lens of your experiences [5:03]
Trauma |Awareness of what you’re thinking and where you’re beginning [7:32]
Window | The moment of willingness and trusting the universe to be open for help [10:23]
Surrender to Win | the idea of surrendering to a whole new way of life [15:31]
Mike’s Window | Coach Mike shares his window of escape and experience [16:43]
G.O.D. | Mike shares his take on good orally direction [20:46]
Commitment | Mike share how he was able stay committed to sobriety [25:08]
Mental Health & Drugs | Mike dives into mental health, drugs and who his book is for [29:25]
The Shift | Mikes shares what it means to turn on someone’s light even in suffering [30:42]
Best-Self | Mike talks about the constructed image of best self and self signaling [33:50]
Anti-Self | Mike explains having people create the worst version of yourself [36:13]
F.O.R.C.E. | Mike reveals the framework of the positive and negative force [38:12]
O.O.O.O. | Mike connects the obstacles, opportunities, one decision and outcome [45:33]
Become Your Own Vehicle | Mike share how became his own vehicle to make change [49:50]
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Move Different | Steven explains the origin of his business moves [6:28]
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Radical Change | Steven explains radical change starts with the smallest step [26:11]
Consistent | Steven explains why consistency leads to radical change [28:50]
Future Identity | Steven reveals how he anchors his present decisions to his future self [32:30]
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