BONUS: Why Children Fear Making Mistakes
Schoolutions: Curious Educators. Evidence-Based Strategies. Classrooms Where Every Child Thrives.
04/11/25
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Discover why children fear making mistakes and how to help them embrace setbacks and learn from them. Nurturing curious minds is essential for growth and development.
In this powerful bonus episode, I delve deeper into my conversation with Lily Howard Scott, author of The Words That Shape Us.
Discover how the language educators and caregivers use profoundly impacts children's emotional development, self-perception, and willingness to take risks.
Learn practical strategies for building emotional vocabulary, reframing mistakes as learning opportunities, and using language that honors children's autonomy.
Whether you're a teacher, parent, or caregiver, these evidence-based approaches will transform how you communicate with the children in your care and help them develop the emotional intelligence needed to thrive in school and beyond.
Episode Mentions:
➡️ Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence
➡️ Carol Dweck - Even Geniuses Work Hard
Chapters:
00:00 - Introduction and Episode Overview
01:00 - Overview of "The Words That Shape Us" Book Structure
04:00 - Developing Children's Emotional Vocabulary
07:00 - Helping Children Become Comfortable with Discomfort
09:00 - Reframing Mistakes as "Brilliant" Learning Opportunities
11:00 - Building a Culture of Fearless Learners
12:00 - Final Thoughts and Poem "On Children"
#TheWordsThatShapeUs #TeacherLanguage #EmotionalIntelligence #GrowthMindset #BrilliantMistakes #ChildDevelopment #ClassroomCommunity #TeachingStrategies #SEL #EmotionalVocabulary #PerfectionismInKids
Check out my full S4E31 interview with Lily Howard Scott (https://youtu.be/3UGl2D9VKg8).
New episodes are released every Monday, with a bonus solo episode on Fridays featuring research-backed coaching and teaching strategies you can apply right away to better serve the children in your care.
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When coaches, teachers, administrators, and families work hand in hand, it fosters a school atmosphere where everyone is inspired and every student is fully engaged in their learning journey.
Previous Episode
Discover the profound impact of language on children's development with educator and author Lily Howard Scott. In this insightful conversation, Lily reveals how the words we use with children become their inner voice, shaping their thinking patterns and sense of self. Learn practical strategies to help children develop self-trust, move beyond binary thinking, and embrace a "birder mindset" that empowers them to appreciate life’s small wonders.
Lily shares powerful concepts from her book, The Words That Shape Us: The Science-Based Power of Teacher Language, including outer shell vs. inner swirls, creating safe classroom environments, and why the most powerful learning happens between ages 0-10.
This episode offers transformative language tools for educators and caregivers to nurture children's authentic selves beyond achievement metrics.
Episode Mentions:
- Lily on Instagram: @lily_howardscott
- Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett - How Emotions are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain
- David Foster Wallace
- B.D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D.
- The Tyranny of Metrics by Jerry Z. Muller
- Marilynne Robinson
- The Book of Delights by Ross Gay
- Ralph Fletcher
- Georgia Heard
- Tyler Rablin - Hacking Student Motivation
Chapters:
0:00 Introduction to Lily Howard Scott
1:40 The Power of Words in Shaping Children's Brains
3:00 Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett's Research on Emotions
5:32 Helping Children Discern Authentic Thoughts from External Pressures
8:05 Creating Safe Spaces in the Classroom
11:20 Teaching Beyond Metrics and Compliance
13:52 Harper's Story: Achievement Pressure's Hidden Toll
16:05 The Birder Mindset: Appreciating Life's Small Details
20:35 Practical Applications of the Birder Mindset
23:10 The Connection Between Bird Watchers and Wisdom
25:30 Moving Beyond Binary Thinking with Children
28:15 The Critical Learning Period (Ages 0-10)
30:30 Outer Shell vs. Inner Swirls
33:40 Closing Thoughts: The Lasting Impact of Our Words
When coaches, teachers, administrators, and families work hand in hand, it fosters a school atmosphere where everyone is inspired and every student is fully engaged in their learning journey.
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The Secret to Meaningful Coaching Conversations with Dr. Haesun Moon
April 14, 2025
•41m
In this transformative conversation, Dr. Haesun Moon reveals how her Dialogic Orientation Quadrant (DOQ) model can revolutionize difficult conversations in polarized environments. Learn how to navigate from troubled pasts and dreaded futures toward resourceful pasts and preferred futures.
Dr. Moon, a Harvard faculty member at the Institute of Coaching and a leading expert on evidence-based coaching, shares practical techniques for transforming dialogues in schools, workplaces, and personal relationships.
Discover why acknowledging negative experiences without exploring them creates powerful connections and how finding calibration points in polarized conversations can bridge even the most divided perspectives.
This episode offers essential strategies for educators, coaches, parents, and anyone seeking to improve dialogue in our increasingly polarized world.
Episode Mentions:
- Janet Clare Beavin Bavelas
- Conference: TLCx - Teaching, Learning, and Coaching (with Jim Knight) in Toronto
Check out Some of Dr. Moon’s Published Writing:
- Coaching A to Z: The Extraordinary Use of Ordinary Words by Dr. Haesun Moon
- Team Coaching with the DOQ: Learning with the Hungarian Team by Dr. Haesun Moon
Chapters:
0:00 - Introduction to Dr. Haesun Moon
2:08 - Research foundations and influences
3:28 - Origin story of the DOQ model
7:24 - Evolution and structure of the four quadrants
12:25 - Dialogue in polarized environments
17:00 - Navigating disagreement through calibration
22:10 - Specific techniques for intentional dialogue
27:40 - How to respond to dreaded futures
32:30 - Applying the model with children and students
35:40 - New frontiers: politics and semiotic warfare
38:40 - Conversation as our dwelling place
#DialogicCoaching #DOQModel #HaesunMoon #CoachingTechniques #DifficultConversations #SolutionFocused #TeamCoaching #CommunicationSkills #ActiveListening #TransformativeDialogue #EducatorCoaching #DialogueTechniques
When coaches, teachers, administrators, and families work hand in hand, it fosters a school atmosphere where everyone is inspired and every student is fully engaged in their learning journey.
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