Why Is Love So Hard To Find In The Modern World? - Matthew Hussey - #765
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04/01/24
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Matthew Hussey is the world’s #1 dating coach, a YouTuber, public speaker and an author.
Navigating modern love can feel like solving an impossible puzzle, but in truth, there are specific skills and tips that can elevate your romantic life. Matthew has spent 15 years coaching millions of men and women through their relationship struggles, and today we get his best insights.
Expect to learn if dating coaches are actually any easier to date, whether love should feel easy or if we need to become stronger, how you can realise the behaviours that are making you miserable, why being single is so hard for many people, the biggest problem with avoiders, how to get better at having a hard conversation and much more...
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Timestamps:
(00:00) Are Dating Coaches Hard to Date? (06:13) How We Use Dating to Make Us Feel Better (10:21) Flipping Between Comforting & Inspiring Relationships (20:03) How We Condition Ourselves to Feel Love & Peace (30:01) Overcoming Imposter Syndrome Through Working Hard (36:23) Why the Internet Isn’t Talking About Love Anymore (48:28) Being Comfortable With Healthy Love (52:28) Feeling Guilty About Having Needs (1:01:37) How to Become Better at Hard Conversations (1:08:35) The Downsides of Being a Fixer (1:18:18) How to Communicate When You’re in the Wrong (1:28:07) Why Men Bottle Up Their Trauma (1:48:50) Working Hard to Rewire Your Thinking (1:55:34) Where to Find Matthew
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The Delicate Art Of Mastering Work-Life Balance - Cal Newport - #764
March 30, 2024
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Cal Newport is a computer science professor at Georgetown University, a productivity expert and an author.
If you’ve ever felt that you’re not as productive as you could be, you’re not alone. But what if the goal isn't to be more productive, but to let go of the goals that aren't serving you? What if the power of saying no to more things is the most important skill you can develop?
Expect to learn what our current problem with being productive is, why pseudo-productivity is a catastrophe, the advantages to what Cal calls Slow Productivity, how to better organise your communication, the best strategies for implementing a productivity schedule, how to stop saying yes all the time and much more...
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(00:00) Our Current Definition of Productivity (03:08) The Evolution of Productivity Advice (12:58) Most People’s Relationship With Productivity (20:31) Typical Days of Historical Figures (26:19) How to Work at a Natural Pace (37:00) Dealing With the Increased Workload of Success (43:41) The Insane Output of Brandon Sanderson (50:16) Creating a Productive Work Environment at Home (53:29) Getting Better At Saying No (1:02:55) The Benefit of Quotas & Templates (1:10:10) Being Busy Vs Producing Success (1:20:40) How to Optimise for Quality (1:25:59) Slowing Down the Rate of Communication (1:31:23) The Price You Need to Pay for Slow Productivity (1:36:29) Steps to Begin Unwinding Bad Work Habits (1:43:58) The Importance of Writing (1:49:51) Where to Find Cal
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Jonathan Haidt is a Professor at New York University’s Stern School of Business, social psychologist, and an author.
The kids are not alright. Mental health is plummeting while anxiety and depression is on the rise. Just what are the contributing elements? Is it social media? Helicopter parenting? 24 hour news? Or something else?
Expect to learn why every generation complains about the next one, what is so important about the development of kids between 8 and 12 years old, what the biggest problem is with test scores in primary school children, the real harm of technology on kids, why words like ‘trigger’ and ‘fragility’ are such a problem, if there is a way to do identity politics well and much more...
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(00:00) The Uniqueness of the New Generation (01:10) What Does a Good Childhood Look Like? (07:06) Changes in Parenting Styles (10:59) Lack of Discipline in Modern Parenting (15:16) The Importance of Risk in Play (20:47) Is the Education System Ruining Kids? (27:16) The Problem With Ideological Academia (30:45) Latest Data on Social Media’s Impact (38:47) Primary Harms of Technology on Kids (46:12) Is Social Media Use Addiction or Compulsion? (49:48) How Boys & Girls Use Technology Differently (56:46) The Male Sedation Hypothesis (1:02:37) Are Gen-Z Bothered About Status? (1:12:34) Latest Data on Female Mental Health (1:17:31) Why is Anxiety the Most Prevalent Feeling? (1:21:11) How We Solve the Teen Mental Health Crisis (1:28:04) Where to Find Jonathan
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