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Why Do We Date People That Need Fixing? - Dr John Delony - #920

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03/27/25

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Dr. John Delony is a mental health expert, author, YouTuber and speaker.

What does it mean to be a good partner? We all want fulfilling relationships, but building one involves a careful balance of give and take. How do you show up as a supportive partner and not just for your significant other, but also for yourself?

Expect to learn why we date people we feel we need to fix, why it’s so hard to leave relationships even if we don’t have our needs met, advice for how to move on from breakups easier, how to gain control of your mind, how to deal with stressful situations better, how to be a better partner to your significant other and much more...

Timestamps:

(00:00) Different Levels Of Compassion (08:47) Is It Possible To Have Friendships With Those We Work With? (14:34) Do People Love You For Who You Are Or What You Do? (23:39) Advice On How To Support Men (28:30) Why Do We Tend To Be Critical Of Others? (31:52) Why Do We Feel The Need To Fix Those We Date? (42:58) Our Constant Search To Have Our Needs Fulfilled (46:12) Do We Find Fulfilment In Our Job? (52:35) Why Do We Stay In Relationships That Aren't Fulfilling? (58:30) Building Up Courage To Walk Away From A Relationship (01:09:54) How To Be More Intouch With Our Emotions (01:16:36) Learning How To Move On From A Relationship (01:22:26) Differentiating Grief And Depression (01:31:30) Where To Start With Processing Trauma (01:45:07) Chris' Interest In Evolutionary Psychology (01:51:52) Dealing With The Weights We Carry (02:02:04) Where To Find John

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If you found yourself trapped in a South American prison, who's the first person you'd call? The person you named is likely the highest-agency individual in your life. So, what exactly makes high-agency people so valuable, and what essential skills can you learn from them to apply to your own life?

Expect to learn what high agency is and what makes people with high agency so special, who the apex example of a high agency person is, the one question you should ask yourself to find the person with the most high agency in your life, the 4 key skills of a high agency person, the core techniques of some one who is high agency and much more...

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How much are our phones affecting our brains? Our attention spans seem to be getting shorter, and many of us feel more forgetful. So how much of this can we blame on our phones and what can we do to fix it?

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