The Lifetime Problem With Being A “Nice Guy” - Dr Robert Glover - #739

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02/01/24

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Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author.

Being nice is something many of us aspire to become. After all, who doesn't want to be nice? Well Nice Guy Syndrome has been ruining the lives of many men for decades, so perhaps we should aspire to be something else.

Expect to learn what is actually wrong with being a nice guy, why men become so afraid of putting their needs first, how to stop people pleasing, why nice guys end up resentful and bitter, whether nice guys attract or repel women and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) What’s Wrong With Being a Nice Guy? (05:54) The Origin of Nice Guys (15:06) Using Aggression as a Masculine Tool (22:15) Are Nice Guys More Orderly? (28:06) Why Nice Guys Keep Things Hidden (38:54) The Solution is Not to Be a Bad Guy (45:02) Alain de Botton on Nice Guys (48:37) Why Women Aren’t Complaining About Nice Guys (58:38) What Nice Guys Need to Know About Female Attraction (1:05:23) The Role of Emotional Tension (1:13:54) The Importance of Playfulness (1:25:42) How to Rehabilitate a Nice Guy (1:30:50) Your Most Formative Sexual Experience (1:39:59) Best Practices to Help Nice Guys (1:46:23) Where to Find Dr Glover

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21 Brutally Honest Lessons About Life - Alex Hormozi - #738

January 29, 2024

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Alex Hormozi is a founder, investor and an author.

Alex’s Twitter continually has been one of my favourite sources of great insights over the last few years. Today we get to go through some of my favourite lessons from him about life, human behaviour, psychology, business and resilience. Yet again this is so, so good.

Expect to learn why being called a control freak isn’t an insult, how to stop making the same mistakes over and over again, why being at the top will always require you becoming uncomfortable, Alex’s guide to surviving cancellation, how to get more comfortable telling the truth, why it's good to remember that all your critics are going to die and much more...

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February 3, 2024

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Andrew Henderson is the founder of Nomad Capitalist, a global citizenship expert and financial consultant known for helping people with offshore strategies.

Should you stay in the country you were born in? Is that the best, happiest place for you to be? What if there was a different option? Well, that's Andrew's entire philosophy - to go where you're treated best.

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