The Life-Changing Skill of Emotional Regulation - Dr Marc Brackett - #1014
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11/01/25
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Dr. Marc Brackett is a professor at Yale University, the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, and author.
Why is it so hard to actually feel our emotions? In a world that tells us to “be more vulnerable,” many of us don’t even know what that really means. Are we being unregulated when we express emotion, or are we finally being human? How can we reconnect with what we feel so we can actually understand ourselves better?
Expect to learn why only 1 in 5 adults can name more than three emotions they feel regularly, what emotional intelligence actually is, why we were taught such few emotional skills, how we can tell the difference between real regulation and repressed emotion, if it is possible to be too self-aware, how you can learn to reframe uncomfortable emotions—like anxiety or envy—into signals instead of shame and much more...
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(0:00) How Can We Recognise What We’re Feeling? (5:02) What Does it Mean to Regulate Emotion? (10:21) Why Were We Never Taught How to Regulate Our Emotions? (18:56) Why Does Emotional Suppression Come So Naturally? (24:40) Are People Truly Anxious? (34:14) How to Build Emotional Regulation (47:54) The Real Advantage of Becoming Emotionally Intelligent (01:01:32) The Difference Between Feeling Emotions and Processing Them (01:05:13) Why Being ‘Too Sensitive’ Is a Myth (01:19:15) Is It Possible to Be Too Self-Aware? (01:24:02) The First Step Toward Mastering Emotional Regulation (01:26:58) Where to Find Marc
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How to Fix a Culture of Emasculated Men - Scott Galloway - #1013
October 30, 2025
•105m
Scott Galloway is a professor of marketing at the New York University Stern School of Business, a public speaker, entrepreneur and an author.
Why are so many young men struggling today? In a world that often focuses on the oppression of others, it’s easy to forget that men are part of that story too. What’s actually being done to address men’s challenges, and how can both society and men themselves help turn things around?
Expect to learn why men struggling is actually affecting women too, why the left haven't recognised the problems men face and deal with, what is broken in manhood for the current generation, the 4 variables every man should be solving for, the one stat the keep Scott up at night about the state of young men, what boys lose when men don’t have a father figure, the best kind of risks that build men, what healthy masculinity actually looks like and much more...
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(0:00) Why are We Inserting Women into Men’s Issues? (15:03) The Quiet Return of Soft Bigotry (25:47) Are Progressives Finally Ready to Talk About Men’s Issues? (33:23) Are Men More Emotionally Fragile Than Women? (44:41) How #MeToo Movement Rewired Male Behaviour Around Women (55:16) Why Male Friendships are So Hard to Build (01:03:23) What is Broken in Modern Manhood? (01:11:56) Why Women Seek a Provider and Protector (01:22:01) How Sex Motivates Men (01:31:06) Kindness is a Man’s Secret Weapon
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16 Lessons from The School Of Life - Alain de Botton - #1015
November 3, 2025
•89m
Alain de Botton is a philosopher, author, and founder of The School of Life.
How can we truly understand ourselves? Most of us either ignore our emotions or overthink them, turning simple feelings into complex puzzles. So how do we navigate the minefield of emotion to grow and become better?
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(0:00) The Hidden Trap of Self-Esteem (9:52) Discovering What We’re Actually Capable Of (16:43) How Friendship Protects Us From External Criticism (23:30) Why Men Need to Be Vulnerable with Each Other (31:08) The Deeper Need Behind Status-Seeking (45:35) How Can We Find Meaning in Art? (50:43) Why Thinking Deeply Feels So Uncomfortable (54:28) The Importance of Letting Fleeting Thoughts Breathe (01:01:43) Are We Trapping Our Emotions Through Intellectualisation? (01:13:53) Relearning the Skill of Hope (01:18:17) What Modern Society Really Teaches Us About Love
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