How To Stop Feeling So Frustrated All The Time - Jonny Miller - #826

Modern Wisdom

08/17/24

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89m

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Jonny Miller is a writer, nervous system coach and a podcaster.

Emotions are scary. Feeling feelings and being truly connected to your life is hard. But what if the solution to these thinking problems doesn't lie in thinking more, but in fixing your body, nervous system and breath first?

Expect to learn why it’s so hard to feel feelings, whether it’s possible to think your way out of overfeeling, how to use breathwork to master your nervous system, what the personal development industry gets wrong, why negative self-talk is holding you back, how to regain control after losing your temper and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Why is it So Hard to Feel Feelings? (05:19) Can You Think Your Way Into Feeling? (12:30) How the Nervous System Relates to Feelings (17:00) Modes of Reactivity in the Nervous System (21:04) How to Improve Your Interoception (34:02) Key Strategies for Self-Regulation (40:46) De-Regulating After Daily Experiences (46:31) Learning the Skill of Emotional Fluidity (51:37) Changing Your Traits Through Breathwork (58:04) The Trap of Avoiding Your Feelings (01:01:23) Over-Optimising Relaxation (01:07:07) How Your Inner Voice Impacts the Body (01:10:39) The Neuro-Aperture Hypothesis (01:18:18) Flaws of the Self-Development Industry (01:21:48) Protocols for Beginners (01:26:33) Questions That Have Broken Jonny’s Mind (01:28:17) Where to Find Jonny

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The New Science Of Why Men & Women Cheat - Macken Murphy - #825

August 15, 2024

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Macken Murphy is an evolutionary biologist at the University of Melbourne, a writer and a podcaster.

Why do people cheat? Is it just the allure of novelty? Dissatisfaction in their current relationship? Fear of being left? Retaliation for their partner cheating? Macken's brand new study gives so many fascinating answers to these questions.

Expect to learn what the evolutionary drivers are behind men's and women's infidelity, what this new science says about the Dual Mating and Mate Switching hypotheses, the top 3 reasons for why men and women both cheat, whether cheating is heritable, if there is such a thing as one and done cheating, the most common behaviours of somebody who is being unfaithful and much more...

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(00:00) Groundbreaking New Research on Infidelity (10:09) Studying People Who Have Cheated (20:31) Are There Evolutionary Benefits to Men Cheating? (25:36) The Novelty of Infidelity (28:30) Most Surprising Research Takeaways (35:23) Can Women Separate Emotions From Sex? (46:20) Top 3 Motivations for Women Cheating (53:14) How Society Views Cuckolding (01:02:53) Men’s Motivations for Cheating (01:12:03) The Science Behind Jealous (01:20:28) What Are the Predictors of Infidelity? (01:28:57) How to Know if Someone is Cheating (01:33:22) What Counts as Cheating? (01:38:08) Can You Inherit Promiscuity? (01:44:33) People More Likely to Be Cheated on (01:49:16) Is Infidelity Natural? (01:56:19) Where to Find Macken

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August 19, 2024

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115m

Whitney Cummings is a comedian, actress, writer, and a podcaster.

Emotional maturity is a difficult thing to truly come by. Making your needs known, setting boundaries, being able to disappoint people without being afraid. If it's such an important skill, why is it so hard to discover how to develop it?

Expect to learn how Whitney has been changed since becoming a mother, why Whitney has been thinking about circumcision so much, what codependence is and how to overcome it, why your niceness might be narcissism in disguise, why the news and memes are moving at such an insane velocity right now and much more...

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This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠

How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠

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