How To Stop Being Such A People Pleaser - Nick Pollard - #884
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01/02/25
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Nick Pollard, “The People Displeaser,” is a coach and a speaker.
Why do we feel so compelled to put others ahead of ourselves? Surely at the very minimum we should be able to prioritise ourselves. Yet it's hard. So, how can you break free from people pleasing tendencies and actually start advocating for your own needs with confidence?
Expect to learn why people pleasing is such a trap, how someone can distinguish between being considerate and sacrificing their own identity to please others, how to rehabilitate yourself from being a people pleaser, why it’s so hard to advocate to your own needs, how to know when you should give up on someone and much more...
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(00:00) The Trap of People-Pleasing (11:24) Learning to Be Honest With Yourself (17:18) Why People-Pleasers Struggle to Find Joy (22:02) The Cost of Being a People-Pleaser (26:55) When Does Being Considerate Go Too Far? (29:34) How Men & Women People-Please (40:02) Why People Struggle to Advocate for Their Needs (55:37) First Steps to Correcting People-Pleasing (01:05:21) Biggest Misconceptions About Boundaries (01:18:14) Maintaining the Boundaries You Set (01:22:43) How Sensitive People Can Be More Assertive (01:31:09) The Guilt of Choosing Yourself Over Others (01:43:51) The Role of Triggers in People-Pleasing (01:47:35) When to Give Up on Someone (01:50:37) Highly Successful People-Pleasers (02:01:38) Impactful Books for People-Pleasers (02:05:15) Where to Find Nick
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Dr. Matthew Walker is a neuroscientist, professor at UC Berkley, and author.
Many of the mental and physical challenges you might be facing could have a surprisingly simple solution: more sleep. But why is sleep so essential? What happens when we sleep, and how can we optimize our sleep to maximize its benefits?
Expect to learn what defines good sleep, how stress impacts your sleep, the keys to getting and maintaining a regular sleep pattern, the best sleeping positions, how to stop snoring, why sleeping with your partner is making your sleep worse, if alcohol, THC and other supplements actually give you a better nights rest, the evolutionary reasons why we dream, the latest science and tech for hacking your sleep and much more...
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(0:00) Conceptualising Good Sleep (02:08) Becoming an Efficient Sleeper (08:00) How High Stress Impacts Sleep (16:10) Improving Sleep Quality (21:18) How Regular Should Sleep Patterns Be? (32:00) The Danger of Sleep Procrastination (36:35) How Bad is Blue Light Before Sleep? (44:05) The Timing of Your Sleep (55:29) How Sleep Changes as You Age (01:02:08) Do Sleep Positions Matter? (01:11:44) Treating Snoring & Mild Sleep Apnea (01:16:45) Tips for Couples Sleeping Together (01:32:08) How Caffeine & Alcohol Impacts Sleep (01:48:59) Can THC & CBD Help With Sleep? (01:54:06) Using Melatonin & Other Supplements (02:03:18) New Sleep-Aiding Technologies (02:22:30) What Causes Chronic Fatigue? (02:24:08) Why We Dream (02:41:29) Where to Find Matthew
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Success is multi-layered. It involves challenges like overcoming nervousness, developing an appetite for risk-taking, and dealing with failures both privately and publicly—the list goes on. So how can we better navigate these hurdles to unlock our full potential?
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