How To Overcome A Difficult Childhood - Vienna Pharaon - #790
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05/30/24
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Vienna Pharaon is a licensed marriage and family therapist and an author.
Learning to understand yourself can be the most powerful form of self-care. It helps you fix bad habits and improve your relationships with others. But how do you actually begin to understand who you are, and how do you start the process of becoming unstuck?
Expect to learn how to reconcile what you needed as a child emotionally but never actually got, where your patterns in life come from, why people have so much resistance around opening up about their past and their family, how to avoid getting stuck wallowing in your history, Vienna’s favourite questions people should ask of themselves, how you can unwind your patterns and much more...
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Timestamps:
(00:00) The Unresolved Past (06:23) Why We Resist Opening Up About Our Past (11:22) The Bravery of Confronting Your Mistakes (14:53) Vienna’s Most Common Clientele (17:19) Reluctance to Being Up Issues With Parents (22:41) How Often You Need to Speak to People From Your Past (27:03) What If You Don’t Remember Much of Childhood? (30:44) Convincing Men to Be Vulnerable (33:23) What Do We Outsource Our Worth to? (37:55) Feeling a Sense of Authentic Belonging (42:30) Why You Don’t Feel Like a Priority to Others (45:20) How to Heal the Wound of Safety (55:20) Uncomfortable Questions to Ask Yourself (59:06) What Does Origin Healing Look Like? (01:06:14) Fixing Conflict, Communication & Boundaries (01:08:56) A Healthy Use of Boundaries (01:13:42) Can We Actually Correct Our Programming? (01:18:07) Giving Yourself More Compassion (01:19:20) Where to Find Vienna
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Neil was the world's most famous pickup artist who kickstarted much of the modern dating discourse. So looking back 20 years later, what has he come to realise about what really matters in life and how to find love and connection?
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Dr Robert Glover is a therapist, coach and an author.
Everyone wants a quality partner. Yet both sexes seem to be struggling to find a mate that makes them feel the way they want. Safe, whole, excited, interested, loved. Why is it so hard and what can we do to make it easier?
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