How To Make Life's Biggest Decisions - Abby Davisson - #603

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03/18/23

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61m

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Abby Davisson is an author, social innovation leader and career development expert whose research focuses on decision making in money management and romance.

There are some big decisions we all need to make. What job to take, what city to live in, whether to get married or divorced or have kids. Having a prescriptive formula for this might seem impossible, but Abby helped run the most popular course at Stanford on exactly this topic, and today we get to find out what she's discovered.

Expect to learn what the most common biggest single mistake that Abby has discovered in her research, how to use logic in romantic decisions without killing the romance, how to speak to your parents about care as they get older, the biggest mistakes that all people make when it comes to major decisions, if you should get a prenup agreement and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro (00:48) What’s Wrong with our Decision Making? (05:02) Making Decisions on Limited Information (09:52) Principles for Effective Communication (15:16) The Financial Aspect of Finding a Partner (23:17) Romantic Decisions in a World of Unlimited Options (35:11) Advice for Couples who Struggle to Communicate (39:20) Most Common Life Decision Regrets (43:47) How to Know if a Relationship Should End (49:45) Choosing Where to Live (53:29) Considering Elderly Care (1:01:01) Where to Find Abby

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14 Shocking Lessons About Human Nature - Gurwinder Bhogal - #602

March 16, 2023

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110m

Gurwinder Bhogal is a programmer and a writer.

Gurwinder is one of my favourite Twitter follows. He’s written yet another megathread exploring human nature, cognitive biases, mental models, status games, crowd behaviour and social media. It's fantastic, and today we go through some of my favourites.

Expect to learn why asking questions is the most selfish thing you can do, why people create hatred in an attempt to feel love, the real danger of censorship, why it's more important to avoid being wrong than try to be right, what postjournalism is and why you need to understand it, how to win every debate even if you lose, why you should never take an internet insult personally and much more...

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(00:00) Intro (00:57) Social Media is Making People Less Sincere (08:18) Instead of Trying to Be Right, Be Less Wrong (13:18) People are More Interested in Criticising than Helping (17:15) Never Take Information at Face Value (20:29) Becoming Trapped in a Purity Spiral (30:47) It Isn’t Coordination, It’s Cowardice (45:53) Media is Now ‘Post-Journalism’ (52:51) The Majority of Evil People Had Good Intentions (59:34) Why It’s Easier to Debate Geniuses than Idiots (1:09:16) Don’t Take Social Media Attacks Seriously (1:25:28) Are People Really Judging Us? (1:32:30) The Configuration of Dominant Ideologies (1:47:50) Where to Find Gurwinder

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The Evolutionary Story Of Human Friendship - Robin Dunbar - #604

March 20, 2023

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85m

Robin Dunbar is an anthropologist, evolutionary psychologist, head of the Social and Evolutionary Neuroscience Research Group at the University of Oxford and an author.

Most animals need friends to survive. But no other animal has as layered and complex a social life as humans. The last 2 million years from trees to plains to apartments has caused huge changes to the setup of our social groups, and it's a fascinating story.

Expect to learn why any group size over 90 ends up with more people being killed than being born, why men don't have a best friend forever but women do, the link between human brain size and social groups, how male and female friendships differ, why the modern world has the most loneliness ever, what the single largest impact on your health is and much more...

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