How To Fix Your Negative Patterns - Alain de Botton - #898
Modern Wisdom
02/03/25
•108m
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Alain de Botton is a philosopher, author, and founder of The School of Life
Healing yourself is one of the most transformative journeys you can undertake. From nurturing your inner voice to improving relationships, how can we embrace healing to not only grow personally but also show up better for those around us?
Expect to learn where bad inner voices come from and how to hear a negative voice, why we struggle to connect with our emotions, if there is a danger of intellectualising challenges of emotion for smart people, Alain’s advice for obsessive people who want to let go a little more, advice for an anxious person dealing with an avoidant one, why we get stuck in unhappy relationships, how to improve your self worth and much more...
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(00:00) Where Do Bad Inner Voices Come From? (08:22) Healing a Negative Inner Voice (22:31) Why Do We Struggle to Fully Connect With Our Emotions? (28:14) The Danger of Intellectualising Emotions (36:01) Letting Go as an Obsessive Person (43:06) Openness & Transparency in Relationships (52:13) Advice for People in an Anxious-Avoidant Relationship (58:37) How Malleable Are Attachment Styles? (01:08:42) Embracing Playfulness in a Serious World (01:12:26) How Childhood Impacts Adult Relationships (01:16:02) Why People Get Stuck in Unhappy Relationships (01:22:33) Our Tendency to People-Please (01:29:59) Taking Ownership of Your Patterns (01:37:12) Are Deep Thinkers More Lonely? (01:41:05) What Drives Alain? (01:51:51) Where to Find Alain
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February 1, 2025
•67m
Steve Magness is a performance coach, author, and sports scientist.
Performing under pressure isn’t easy. Whether it’s a big test, a game, or a presentation, nerves often get in the way. So how do you stay calm and do your best? How can you turn pressure into an advantage?
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(00:00) Talented People Who Struggle to Reach Their Potential (04:51) The Price of Your Own Expectation (11:43) How Pressure Impacts Performance (16:36) Performance Experiments in Rugby (20:09) How Our Mindset Impacts Our Biology (31:34) Evidence-Based Strategies to Reframe Pressure (39:48) The Benefits of Having a Support Group (51:14) Dealing With Fear of Failure (01:00:40) How Important Are Goals & Values? (01:06:49) Where to Find Steve
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The Harsh Truth About Money & Happiness - Sahil Bloom - #899
February 6, 2025
•90m
Sahil Bloom is an investor, writer, and author. Focusing relentlessly on your goals can change your life. And if you work hard enough, one day your friends might call you ‘lucky’. But the truth is, luck is often just a byproduct of relentless effort. So, how do you create more opportunities for yourself and increase your chances of luck? Expect to learn why you’re one year of focus might change your life, the problem with constantly looking at the scoreboard of your life, the relationship between money and happiness, how to maximise time without falling into the productivity trap, what it means to expand your “Luck Surface Area”, how to build winner momentum, the most important practises to operationalise these principles and much more...
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The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman
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