Did Evolutionary Psychology Get Dating All Wrong? - Dr Paul Eastwick - #1056
Modern Wisdom
02/07/26
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Dr Paul Eastwick is a psychologist, professor, and a researcher.
Much of what we think we know about relationships comes from an evolutionary psychology lens, but what if that framework is flawed? In his groundbreaking new research, Dr Paul Eastwock challenges long-held assumptions, turning evolutionary psychology on its head. So where did it go wrong, and what new models replace it?
Expect to learn where the Evo Psych community may have been wrong about mating and relationships, the biggest problem with the term “mating market”, how accurate people’s opinions are and ideas at their “type” or mate preferences, what men find appealing in women and visa versa, what Paul’s definition of attachment in adulthood via safe haven (support in adversity) and secure base (support in growth) is, why masculinity needs reimagining and much more...
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(0:00) What’s Really Broken in the Modern Dating Market (15:00) Is Romance Just a Hierarchy of Inequality? (25:01) Does Self-Improvement Boost Dating Success? (31:43) What Men and Women Really Find Attractive (42:56) How Online Dating Is Changing Relationships (47:07) The Biggest Traits We Misjudge in Men and Women (58:20) Does Waiting to Have Sex Improve Relationships? (01:14:54) Why Attachment Matters in Love (01:19:17) Why Breakups Hurt So Much (01:29:47) Are Humans Meant to Be Monogamous? (01:34:49) Where to Find Paul
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Mastering the Art of Spending Money - Morgan Housel - #1055
February 5
•120m
Morgan Housel is a partner at The Collaborative Fund, an investor and an author.
Why is spending money well a skill most people never learn? In a world obsessed with saving, why does saying “it’s okay to spend” still feel taboo? What can high performers teach us about investing not just money, but time, energy, and attention wisely?
Expect to learn why it’s important to talk about how to spend money well when learning about personal finance, why good financial ideas struggle to spread while bad ones travel effortlessly, what Morgan’s definition of success is, how much modern dissatisfaction comes from comparing ourselves to people we don’t actually want to be like, the real relationship between money and happiness with nuance, why it’s so hard to find people who have managed to be wealthy, successful, happy and peaceful, and much more...
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(0:00) What Your Spending Habits Say About You (6:28) Will a Big House Make You Happy? (10:22) The Surprising Truth About Money and Happiness (21:35) Is Wealth Actually Measurable? (28:11) Why We’re So Hard On Ourselves About Money (34:01) The Relationship Between Money and Status (39:59) Can You Train Yourself to Feel Financially Content? (49:46) What Really Makes People Happy? (54:13) Is Inheritance a Hidden Burden? (01:04:59) The Smartest (and Dumbest) Ways to Spend Your Money (01:12:03) The Transformative Power of Storytelling (01:24:51) Why Anger Makes You Feel Superior (01:32:29) Do Men and Women Build Wealth Differently? (01:37:28) The Biggest Money Mistakes Parents Make (01:42:49) How the Housing Crisis Shaped a Generation (01:52:25) Why People Are Afraid to Spend Money (01:59:34) Where to Find Morgan
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