14 Lessons from 5 Years Of Modern Wisdom - #589

Modern Wisdom

02/13/23

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It's Modern Wisdom's 5th birthday!!

5 years ago on February 12th 2018 I launched this podcast with a conversation in my old company's office in the North East of England. Over the last 589 episodes, 1000+ hours and nearly 2000 days of working away on this project I've learned a lot, and today I'm going through some of the most important lessons and insights I've picked up.

Expect to learn the importance of a wide vocabulary, why all amateurs are narcissists, why learning about the reasons for your actions can liberate you or destroy you, whether you should trade youth for money, if you should be known for your takes or your work, why envy not greed drives the world, how to stop getting stuck in old patterns and much more...

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro (02:00) A Richer Vocabulary Means a Richer Life (06:10) The Tension Between Success & Desire to Feel Like You’re Enough (13:12) The Danger of Believing Your Limitations (20:00) The Vestigial Pattern Bias (27:48) Envy Drives the World, Not Greed (31:25) Do You Want to be Known for Your Work or Your Takes? (39:20) Would You Trade Money for Youth? (47:13) Proximate & Ultimate Reasons for Human Behaviour (54:31) Don’t Outsource Your Self-Worth (59:11) The Tocqueville Paradox (1:03:55) Don't Underestimate How Normal the Normies Are

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The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠

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Previous Episode

Why Would Any Man Choose To Be Cucked? - Dr David Ley - #588

February 11, 2023

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58m

Dr David Ley is a clinical psychologist and a board member of the Sexual Health Alliance whose research focuses on issues related to sexuality, pornography and mental health.

Your partner being intimate with another guy should evolutionarily be one of the biggest fears of a man's life. Actually encouraging this behaviour seems almost unthinkable, and yet cucking is becoming a much more common pursuit and one of the most popular categories of online porn.

Expect to learn the stats around how common cuckolding actually is, whether cuckolding could cover up a husband's desire to be with another man, how often this goes wrong and destroys a relationship, whether sex addiction is an actual thing, some surprising research around porn addiction, how religiosity predicts dysfunction with porn and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro (00:26) Why Dr Ley Studied Cuckolding (04:23) How is it Possible for Men to Find Pleasure from Cuckolding? (15:13) Is Cuckolding Repressed Homosexuality? (22:17) The Weird Dynamics of Female Cuckolding (29:00) Wider Implications of Cuckolding & Porn Use on Society (34:24) How Should Children Be Taught About Sexuality? (42:31) Role of Shame in Men’s Relationship with Porn (49:10) How Porn Use Impacts Motivation to Find a Mate (53:43) Advice for People Who Want to Improve their Relationship with Porn (58:18) Where to Find Dr Ley

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Episodes You Might Enjoy:

This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠

How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠

Get in touch.

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Next Episode

When Will You Learn To Grow Up? - Mark Manson - #590

February 16, 2023

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79m

Mark Manson is a best selling author, blogger and a movie star.

You're not supposed to just get older, you're supposed to mature as well. You're supposed to leave the juvenile patterns and beliefs and behaviours behind as you shed your past self like a wise awakened crab. So why do so many people get stuck in old habits, and how can they get out of them?

Expect to learn what most people don't understand about how relationships work, why so many men are enticed by Andrew Tate's message, what Mark thinks about the modern era of men's advice after being in the industry for over a decade, why he got depressed after a smash hit best selling book, how to deal with high standards for yourself and much more...

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Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro (00:45) What People Don’t Understand About Success (06:26) Methods to Ground Yourself (11:21) Choosing Your Struggles (15:57) Why Mark Got Depressed After His First Book (22:06) Experience of Quitting Alcohol (33:05) Why Gen-Z are Impressive (45:15) Mark’s Hierarchy of Audience Capture (49:31) Thoughts on the Modern Era of Men’s Advice (1:04:13) How #MeToo Affected Dating Approaches (1:12:15) What Men Need to Focus On After Their Twenties (1:18:45) Where to Find Mark

Extra Stuff:

Check out Mark's website - https://markmanson.net/

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Get my free Reading List of 100 books to read before you die → https://chriswillx.com/books/

To support me on Patreon (thank you): https://www.patreon.com/modernwisdom

Episodes You Might Enjoy:

This Is How To Master Your Life - David Goggins - #577: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Goggins⁠⁠⁠

How To Destroy Your Negative Beliefs - Dr Jordan Peterson - #712: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Peterson⁠⁠⁠

The Secret Tools To Hack Your Brain - Dr Andrew Huberman - #700: ⁠⁠⁠lnkfi.re/SN-Huberman⁠⁠

Get in touch.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chriswillx

Twitter: https://www.twitter.com/chriswillx