
Obsessed With The Fallback and Making The Choice to Grow ft. Valerie Livesay
Get Obsessed : With Living Your Best Life
12/16/22
•34m
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It can be challenging to catch up on old times when you haven't seen someone for a while. You may feel like you've changed, and they're still stuck in the past. This can especially happen when meeting a new person, your family, or another person you're accustomed to seeing in a certain way.
It can feel like they are pulling you back into the past, and you struggle to be seen as the person you are now. And it can be even more frustrating when your own family sees you this way.
It's important to remember that you are allowed to grow and change, and the same goes for the person you used to be. They may not recognize you now, but that doesn't mean you're not worth their time.
But this doesn't have to be a negative experience. If you're prepared for it, you can use it as an opportunity to write, flip, and change the script and storyline to show them how far you've come. That's what we will be talking about in this episode with Valerie Livesay, PhD , the author of Leaving the Ghost Light Burning.
Valerie has been thinking about and inquiring into the phenomenon of fallback for more than a decade. Following a career in higher education in both administration and faculty roles, Valerie now serves as the Chief Illuminator at Ghost Light Leadership, where she accompanies individuals through their discovery of self using the analogy of theater to set the stage for their historical and unfolding story.
What You Will Learn From This Episode
02:51 - All about the fallback theory
09:39 - Knowing when you’re in fallback
17:15 - Being a character in your own story and the ghost light
23:32 - Changing the storyline versus typecasting ourselves
27:18 - Being successful and drawing the line
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GET VAL'S AMAZING OFFER: www.ghostlightleadership.com
Register for the Ghost Light 6-week workshop and receive US$250 off the registration fee!
Use the promo code: OBSESSED250
This promo code is valid for the two cohorts scheduled in 2023 - one starting in January and one starting in April.
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Resources Mentioned
- Chuck Palus (Center of Gravity) - https://www.linkedin.com/in/chuck-palus-1001/
- Check out Valerie’s book here : LEAVING THE GHOST LIGHT BURNING
Connect with Valerie Livesay
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/valerielivesayphd/
- Website: https://fallbacktheory.com/
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Get Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith.
We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living.
We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you.
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Previous Episode

Obsessed with Turning Hate Into Heroism ft. Ping Pong Diplomat Wally Green
December 8, 2022
•38m
The game of ping pong, also known as table tennis, is often seen as a simple game that anyone can play. However, for Wally Green, ping pong saved his life and opened him up to all the possibilities that life had to offer, from the *mean streets* of the inner city to the international arena.
For a guy born into a life of abuse and turmoil, Wally had a chance encounter with the sport that kept him out of jail and gave him a sense of purpose. At first, he was only interested in playing to bully those he saw playing the sport.
However, he soon realized that ping pong was more than just a game – it was a way to connect with people. It was a way to build relationships and trust. It was a way to find peace.
Wally discovered a talent for table tennis and went on to become a renowned International Table Tennis Federation (ITTF) Pro Tour professional, co-founder of SPiN, and a TEDx speaker. He now travels the world, using ping pong as a way to connect with people and spread the message of peace, even in North Korea.
In a world filled with so much hate, it is essential to turn that hate into positive energy. It's time for us to change the landscape. It's time for us to start believing in ourselves and doing the things we're meant to do. It's time to get crap done. Wally has been able to use his story to inspire others and show them that overcoming any obstacle in life is possible.
What You Will Learn From This Episode
03:08 - Wally’s early beginnings
15:12 - Turning hate into positive energy
22:53 - Being homeless and getting into the world of ping pong
31:32- Co-founding and finding success with SPiN
33:46 - Never be afraid to ask for help
34:51 - The need for parents to listen to their children
Connect with Wally Green
- Website: https://www.whoiswallygreen.com/
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/wally-green-4836a5b/
See What Your Obsessed Girls Are Doing and Send Us Feedback!
CROWN AND COMPASS | Linktree - https://linktr.ee/crownandcompassgirls
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Get Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith.
We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living.
We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you.
Learn More About Your Hosts: Here
For More About Julie Lokun Check Her Out: Here
🦋Join Our Community:
https://www.crownandcompasslifecoaching.com
Life Coach | Julie Lokun Personal Coaching and Development (julielokuncoaching.com)
And if you are a podcaster, broadcaster, writer or speaker check out our newest FREE community, The Mediacasters:
Get Obsessed with your life. #obsessedpodcast
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A Gift For the New Year: Embracing Our Fallback with Valerie Livesay
December 22, 2022
•17m
Get ready Obsessors! Valerie Livesay is back and giving us a treat! Join us today as Valerie reads a chapter from her wildly successful book, Leaving The Ghost Light Burning. Make sure you check out her generous offer below ⬇⬇⬇
It can be challenging to catch up on old times when you haven't seen someone for a while. You may feel like you've changed, and they're still stuck in the past. This can especially happen when meeting a new person, your family, or another person you're accustomed to seeing in a certain way.
It can feel like they are pulling you back into the past, and you struggle to be seen as the person you are now. And it can be even more frustrating when your own family sees you this way.
It's important to remember that you are allowed to grow and change, and the same goes for the person you used to be. They may not recognize you now, but that doesn't mean you're not worth their time.
But this doesn't have to be a negative experience. If you're prepared for it, you can use it as an opportunity to write, flip, and change the script and storyline to show them how far you've come. That's what we will be talking about in this episode with Valerie Livesay, PhD , the author of Leaving the Ghost Light Burning.
Valerie has been thinking about and inquiring into the phenomenon of fallback for more than a decade. Following a career in higher education in both administration and faculty roles, Valerie now serves as the Chief Illuminator at Ghost Light Leadership, where she accompanies individuals through their discovery of self using the analogy of theater to set the stage for their historical and unfolding story.
*****
GET VAL'S AMAZING OFFER: www.ghostlightleadership.com
Register for the Ghost Light 6-week workshop and receive US$250 off the registration fee!
Use the promo code: OBSESSED250
This promo code is valid for the two cohorts scheduled in 2023 - one starting in January and one starting in April.
*****
Get Obsessed with us. Collectively we are a nutritionist, a master certified life coach, an attorney, and a self-esteem expert. We dive into topics that uncover the essence of the human experience. Our stories are one of kicking fear in the face and taking a leap of faith.
We are equally obsessed with the works of Brene Brown and are inspired to study and understand the 30 core emotions. Each week we will explore another emotion, talk to experts in their field and inspire you to live the life you are meant to be living.
We are Julie Lokun, JD, Tia Morell Walden, Certified Holistic Nutritionist, and Mika Altidor, Certified Life Coach. Join us for the conversation, and more importantly be a part of the conversation. Reach out with a question or comment about an episode or suggest a personal development topic you are obsessed with. After all, the Obsessed Podcast is for you and about you.
Learn More About Your Hosts: Here
For More About Julie Lokun Check Her Out: Here
🦋Join Our Community:
https://www.crownandcompasslifecoaching.com
Life Coach | Julie Lokun Personal Coaching and Development (julielokuncoaching.com)
And if you are a podcaster, broadcaster, writer or speaker check out our newest FREE community, The Mediacasters:
Get Obsessed with your life. #obsessedpodcast
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