Idols of Motherhood Elyse Fitzpatrick Ep 219
Don't Mom Alone Podcast
10/01/18
•49m
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We’ve all been there. Your kid throws a fit in public and you feel the sting of embarrassment and the subtle lie that you aren’t a good enough mom. You fear what others will say and feel like the entire day is ruined in this one encounter.
My guest Elyse Fitzpatrick has lived in this place of fear and presents another way to view your worth as a mother — resting in the righteousness of Jesus. She shares about the very common and subversive idols of motherhood to slip in when we try to control our children’s performance.
But see that’s absolutely soul destroying because you either end up in fear and despair or pride and despair. That’s where you always end up when you’re living for your own righteousness. So in the days that I can lay down and in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah nailed it,’ then I am in pride.
If you’ve struggled to feel “OK” in your own power or have found your personal joy tethered to your kids’ behavior, this episode is for you. Elyse gives us the simple reminder that we have the power through Jesus to topple the idols in our life.
I began to understand this is really idolatry and I’m driving my kids insane trying to prove that I’m really an OK person. That I’m OK when they’re good and I’m a complete train wreck and bad and a loser when they’re not. But, when Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, then idols lose their power to entice us.
What we chat about:
- Elyse’s blended family structure and her son’s adoption
- The balance of the disciplinarian and the more fun parent
- Insecurity about our own faith and the lie of trying to control our kids
- The danger of looking for identity in the way our kids behave
- Looking for the places in our lives where we feel afraid, angry or worried as a barometer for where we aren’t believing God
- Identifying idols in our lives and what they can look like
- How our children make us look or feel in front of others can bring up anger in us
- Elyse’s relationship with her mother and the background of her perceived need for control
- When Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, our idols lose their power
- Not letting our joy be tethered to our kids’ behavior, or even our behavior
- Our self-centered struggle to feel “OK” in our own power
- How living for our own self righteousness leads to a soul destroying cycle of pride and despair
- Resting in the righteousness of Christ and remembering we are forgiven
- Front Porch with the Fitzes Podcast
- Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick **
- The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers**
- No Other Gods Bible Study Book by Kelly Minter**
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Previous Episode
Do You Want to Be Well Susie Larson Ep 218
September 24, 2018
•58m
It’s all too easy slip into believing lies over God’s truth. My guest today shares that healing is possible and opens up about her personal healing journey from both physical and emotional abuse and chronic illness.
An author, radio host, and national speaker, Susie Larson, talks about how intertwined our emotional, spiritual, and physical health are. We talk through stories that are in her new book, “Fully Alive”, and she shares about some powerful experiences she’s had with the Lord.
“The Lord whispered through the chaos in my bathroom. The storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need. The enemy’s railing and saying I’m going to get you. I’ve got you by the throat and I felt like my throat was starting I could swallow and my esophagus was spasming. It’s just horrifying to hear the whisper again. Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth who need.”
There’s so much hope and truth in this episode for all of us who are believing for healing this side of heaven. For more inspiration from Susie, I highly recommend her book, “Fully Alive”**, which is available for pre-order right now.
What we chat about:- Susie’s experiences with abuse both physical and emotional
- How our bodies hold onto trauma and hindrances to the healing process
- Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need
- The idea of blessing guilt and surrendering to God for healing
- The lie of learned helplessness and the truth that we’re not helpless with Jesus
- Rejecting the lies of the enemy and addressing unbeliefs in our soul
- Confronting the scar tissue of our past and the life that’s on the other side of it
- God absolutely heals and it isn’t specifically a lack of faith that keeps us from receiving healing
- Jesus entered in to other’s pain and suffering, that’s our calling too
- The dangers of over medication and distraction that can keep us from being healed
- The integral role of rest in the healing process
- The Uncommon Woman
- Fully Alive: Learning to Flourish–Mind, Body, and Spirit**
- Your Powerful Prayers**
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Next Episode
Calming Angry Kids Tricia Goyer Ep 220
October 8, 2018
•50m
Tricia Goyer is an author, speaker and homeschooling mom of ten. She also knows what it’s like to parent children with chronic anger. If you’ve ever felt alone in how to calm your “angry kid(s),” Tricia has a lot of wisdom to share from parenting both biological and adopted children.
In true Don’t Mom Alone fashion, Tricia and I answer several listener questions about how to respond in love and help kids of all ages process their anger and emotions. We talk about how much harder it is for the current generation of moms who have to factor in busier schedules, social media and more as a part of their children’s environments
My oldest is 29 and my youngest is 8. It is so much harder now. I feel like I’m on the second generation of kids. Now there is social media. There is more television. There are more video games. The access that they have to all these things brings so much anxiety and tension. Not only do they have to go to school, but then they would come home and see on social media that people were talking about them. It’s just so much more involved now even than it was when I had my first generation of kids.
But it’s not impossible! Tricia shares so many great practical tips and suggestions for how to help our kids (and ourselves) work through anger in a healthy way. But beyond all the tips, it all comes down to leaning into God and praying for the Holy Spirit to fill them that will make the biggest difference.
It’s really the Holy Spirit in them and the fruit of the Spirit is God in them that’s going to change them. I could try all these activities. You know, we could do calming bags or coping skills. I mean we do all the things too. But really it is God in them. And the more they lean on God and the more they depend on him that they’ll truly change.
What we chat about:
- Tricia’s family, career and unique calling as an adoptive parent
- Her new book, Calming Angry Kids
- Determining if your child is struggling with how to process anger in a healthy way
- Giving our kids time, attention and praise is a powerful antidote to anger
- Everyone gets mad, what we do with the anger makes the difference
- When they are in the middle of the emotions, it’s not the time to discipline them
- Kids learn to apologize when we model it for them
- Anger is often a secondary emotion from a deeper wounding like shame or feeling unloved or anxiety
- Family schedules are busier than ever before and it heightens anxiety in kids and parents
- Take time to process emotions with your kids and say “No” to more activities or events if they need a break
- Tricia shares both how we can process our own anger and how to help our angry kids
- The idea of an anger log to help track anger over time
- Calming bags and items you can include in them
- Give your kids time and space to calm down
- Specific tips for pre-teens and teens and helping them with anger and hormones
- Calming Angry Kids: Help and Hope for Parents in the Whirlwind **
- Prayer Journals
- Big Kids **
- Little Kids **
- An Interview with Tricia Goyer {GCM Podcast Ep. 7}
- How to Discern God’s Will Stick With It :: Tricia Goyer [Ep 179]
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