5 Schedule Sappers and How to Stop Them :: Lysa TerKeurst {Ep. 45}
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10/27/14
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Do you feel like the master of your schedule or mastered by your schedule?
I’ve had days this fall where each half hour is so tightly packed that a few minute delay shifts the whole day. In response, my mood is rushed, my tone is harsh and my joy is zapped.
Today’s podcast guest, Lysa TerKeurst, author of the new book, “The Best Yes” has some wisdom to share if you feel the same soul stress as me.
Are you being intentional about what you say ‘yes’ to? Or are you reacting to the needs around you and saying ‘yes’ to more than you can handle?
Are you living the life you feel God desires or are you attempting to do all-the-things to please people around you?
In this episode Lysa and I dig into five schedule sappers, ways we don’t take control of schedule and in exchange lose control of our sanity. She shares practical tips for the mom of little ones, ways to be proactive in living our best lives.
What we talk about:- How she is on this journey with us to manage the tension of overwhelmed schedules and underwhelmed souls.
- The season Lysa is now in and how she would have handed herself this book 10 years ago—how the daily choices are impacted by our best “yeses”.
- The goal of concentric impact circles of a God Centered Mom, but the reality of strangers get my best and my family getting my worst.
- Lysa’s confession of being a people pleaser.
- The tension of having more requests of you than can be done in a day and the power of the words “yes” and “no”.
- Unrushing my soul can sound good in theory, but hard to implement with a rushed reality.
- How do we ‘unrush’ when the realities are rushed.
- Practical ideas for fitting in our best yes with a chaotic four boy schedule.
- Have to get intentional with the time we have.
- Definition of “Schedule sapper”: those things that come and sap our schedules, that we dread saying ‘yes’ but feel powerless to say ‘no’.
- If you allow the thing that feeds your soul to get away from you, you do your family a disservice.
- Delaying never lets the ‘no’ go down easier.
- If you get a request and feel a sense of dread, disappoints family/kids, or introduces drama, then you should say ‘no’ right away.
- Saying ‘yes’ to everything won’t make me wonder woman, but a worn out woman.
- Overestimate my capacity and underestimate my time.
- People not projects need to occupy the sacred space of my heart.
“When the motions of my life are rushed, my emotions don’t have to be.”
“How I set my schedule is how I spend my life. How I spend my life is how I spend my soul.”
Connect with Lysa:Site :: Facebook :: Twitter :: Pinterest
Show Notes:- Made to Crave
- Unglued
- The Best Yes
- The Best Yes resources: weekly time assessment tool, chase down the decision tool, videos
- “The Unrush Me” Challenge – 5-day devotional straight to your email, an appetizer leading up to the book.
- “It Will Be Okay: Trusting God through Fear and Change” – new children’s book by Lysa
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5 Principles to Guide Motherhood :: Rosemary MacFadyen {Ep. 44}
October 20, 2014
•33m
I’m married to a pretty fabulous man.
Bruce is kind, positive, loving, intelligent, wise and successful. From the time we were dating I’ve also been impressed with how well he gets along with his sisters and how his family loves one another well. Not only do they love each other well, they all love to serve and care for those around them.
Now I’m telling you all that not to brag, but to give you credentials for today’s podcast guest, Rosemary MacFadyen, my mother-in-law.
Married to a successful general surgeon, mother to 4 (3 girls, 1 boy), grandmother to 12 (9 boys, 3 girls) and minister to many, Rosemary lives a full and godly life.
Over the past 18 years of knowing the MacFadyen family I’ve tried to ask as many questions as possible about growing up in their home, about how they did things and what makes them special.
In today’s episode we all benefit from Rosemary’s wise approach to mothering. She shares the principles that led her parenting decisions and daily actions. We also discuss the benefits of serving internationally as a family, including their time in Liberia, years ago.
(I’ve titled the episode with “5” principles but really I think we surpass that number. . .).
What we chat about:- The use of logical consequences instead of nagging.
- Letting children work out their own disagreements.
- Staying emotionally uninvolved from your children’s bad behavior.
- The importance of morning time of prayer and Bible reading.
- Never talking about one child to another, or even talking about your children’s decisions to a friend.
- Realizing once you say something it’s out there and can’t be taken back.
- Importance of telling your husband what is important to you.
- If you aren’t part of a problem, then you won’t be a part of the solution.
- Getting involved in a another person’s problem, the problem can sometimes escalate.
- To grow like Jesus grew in 4 different areas: wisdom, stature, favor with God, favor with man (Luke 2).
- The importance of helping your children develop a personal relationship with God.
- Helping your children hide God’s word in their hearts.
- How your love for God’s Word can transfer to your children.
- Praying with and for your children.
You have God, the Creator of the whole universe, ready to listen to you, why would we not pray?
- The Bible gives principles for living, boundaries you can use in parenting.
- Parents involving your children in ministry sets a standard for your kids of life including service.
- Observing your child’s skills and plugging them into your family ministry.
- An experience they had with two of her daughters running a guest house in Liberia.
If perfect was what was required in having people in our homes then none of us would do anything, because none of us could do it perfectly.
Show Notes:And Jesus grew in wisdom and stature, and in favor with God and man. Luke 2:52
- Revolutionary Parenting: Raising Your Kids to Become Spiritual Champions by George Barna (**Amazon affiliate link)
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The New Mom Life :: Victoria Wilson [Ep 46]
November 2, 2014
•47m
I remember the transition into motherhood being a bit like a slap in the face (but with all the smooshy love feelings. . .of course).
“You mean they are going to just let me walk out of the hospital with this baby? But I don’t know what I’m doing!”
And that quote came from someone (me) with a Master’s Degree in 0-3 child development, a lifetime of babysitting experience and at least seven Cabbage Patch Kids.
It’s hard to go from only worrying about your needs (and your spouse’s) to keeping a human being alive. . .24/7.
This week God impressed upon my heart the need to encourage the new mom readers/listeners. He kept repeating himself.
Then I got Victoria Wilson‘s email message about guest posting on my site from the perspective of a new mom. And I did the natural (crazy) thing and scheduled a time to interview/chat with her. . .and recorded our convo to publish for y’all.
If you know a new mom who needs encouragement that she’s not alone in all-the-feelings, then pass this podcast along.
What we chat about:- Importance of knowing you aren’t alone in your mental struggles with this new role.
- The mom spectrum–from not wanting to be a mom to always wanting to be a mom, but having a hard time with the reality.
- How your marriage is affected by a new baby–the mom’s center shifting towards the child and the husband being left out.
- How to not micromanage your husband’s interaction with the baby.
- The appropriate use of technology to keep your marriage healthy.
- Remembering you have children in your home less time than you will be a mother to adult children.
- Coming to an agreement with your husband on parenting issues–sleep training, etc.
- The benefit of husbands who aren’t overly influenced by parenting trends. . . listening to his perspective before running them over with all-the-articles.
- When parenting resources conflict, what should parents do?
- Remembering God made you for your baby and trusting He gave you all you need to care for him/her.
- Physical strength from the Lord is a real thing.
- How motherhood takes you to your most broken, most reliant place.
- My husband’s favorite advice for new parents.
- How to transition from no kids to kids, with your girl friendships.
- Ideas for connecting with other new moms.
- Tips for extroverts in getting social needs met.
- Importance of having a “thing” you pour yourself into outside of motherhood.
- Don’t use every nap to clean up the house–a permission slip to nap yourself and do your soul thing.
- Making time in your schedule for God–figure out what time works best for you.
Blog :: Twitter :: Facebook :: Instagram :: Pinterest
Show Notes:- www.VictoriaEasterWilson.com/GodCentered –Victoria’s favorite new mom reads
- Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child by Marc Weissbluth (**Amazon affliate link)
- “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb.” (Psalm 139:13)
- Gone Girl (not “Girl Gone” like I labeled it on the podcast...oi vey!) by Gillian Flynn**
- Victoria’s new novel, “Re’and”.
- Women of the Word: How to Study the Bible with Both Our Hearts and Our Minds by Jen Wilkin**
“He tends his flock like a shepherd: He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young.” Isaiah 40:11
He gently leads you. . . be gentle to yourself, sweet new mom.If you like this episode you’ll love
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