Understanding Adoption: Voices From All Sides
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
06/11/25
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Join us to discuss how adoption looks and feels from all sides of the adoption triad. Our guests will be the authors Sara Easterly, Kelsey Vander Vliet Ranyard, and Lori Holden of their book, Adoption Unfiltered.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Adoptee Perspective:
- 23 adoptees contributed to this section of the book.
- What are some of the issues adoptees may face?
- Compliance and people-pleasing
- Fantasy Attachments
- Shame
- Interracial Adoptees
- The Danger in the Rescue Narrative
- Role of religionin adoption for adoptees, birth mothers/expectant mothers, and adoptive parents
- Birth Mother:
- Before birth mothers get the chance to ask for help, they ask for mercy.
- Advertisements and search algorithms when searching for adoption information
- Lack of neutral support
- Lack of post-placement support—lingering trauma and grief—It’s a different type of grief and trauma.
- Adoptive Parent:
- Insecurity—who’s the real parent
- Adoption Unfiltered Online
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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Question: My wife and I adopted a newborn baby almost 3 years ago and we could not be happier. Now that he is getting a little older, he is talking and starting to understand things. My question is how can we best normalize his adoption with him? I know it is better for kids to grow up with everyone being open with him and his adoption so it feels like now is a good time to start. But I am not sure how to that with an almost 3-year-old. For context, we do not have any contact with the birth family. We send updates and pictures to the agency, but they have not expressed interest in having contact with us. This always seemed like an avenue to start that conversation (you have a birth family and an adoptive family). Without that, I’m not sure how to start talking to him about adoption. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Resources:
- Talking about Adoption, Part 1: Talking with 0-5 Year Olds (Article)
- Talking with Kids about Adoption (Resource page)
- Talking with Kids about Birth Parents (Suggested Books for Young Kids)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Question: I want to know how I can help my child/foster, or adoptee with issues that arise out of the blue. There are things that happen that you’re not aware of, and it just shocks you and throws you off. As an adult, it’s hard to know how to handle some of these things because you can make it worse for the child. Sometimes I feel like I need a therapist to help me navigate being a foster parent.
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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