Trauma-Informed Parenting: Practical Applications of TBRI®

Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

02/22/23

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Kari Dady joins us to talk about applying the guiding principles of Trust-Based Relational Intervention® to typical parenting situations. Kari Dady is a Regional Training & Consultation Specialist with the Karyn Purvis Institute of Child Development. She is also an adoptive mom who uses the TBRI® approach daily in her family.
In this episode, we cover:

What is parental attachment style, and how does it influence how we parent?
How does trauma affect the developing child?
What are some of the different types of trauma that impact a child?
What are the core principles of Trust-Based Relational Intervention®(TBRI®)?
TBRI® talks about parents needing to make a mindset shift when looking at challenging behavior. What is this mindset shift?
How can parents apply Trust-Based Relational Intervention®(TBRI®) to the following common behaviors:
- Inability to accept rules, restrictions, or the word “no”
- Tantrums,
- Whining
- Sleep issues
- Lying
- Stealing

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How to Raise an Intense Child

February 15, 2023

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Do you have a child that is more—louder, more energetic, more argumentative, more everything? Intense children can be harder to raise, but their intensity is a gift as well as a parenting challenge. We talk with Howard Glasser, creator of the Nurtured Heart Approach to parenting. He is the author of Transforming the Difficult Child and Transforming the Intense Child Workbook .
In this episode, we cover:

What do you consider to be an intense child? My child was “more”—more loud, more energy—their reaction to most things was simply more. They go from 5 mph to 60mph in about a second. How to raise the intense child.
What are the labels and diagnoses that intense children often accumulate? ADHD, ODD (Oppositional Defiance Disorder), conduct disorder, PTSD, anxiety disorder, depression.
What makes some kids more “intense” than others?
What do you mean by energy-challenged kids? Unable to handle or effectively control their physical, cognitive or emotional energy. They have a disorder of self-control. They have more energy than they have self-control.
Energy is a gift as well as a challenge.
You mention in Transforming the Difficult Child that many intense or difficult kids love video games—more so than the average child. Why?
Structure-while I think all children need structure, the high-intensity child really needs structure. Positive forms of structure vs. negative forms of structure
Traditional parenting techniques did not work well for my intense little wonder. Your approach to raising an intense child is based on your Nurturing Heart Approach as outlined in your book, Transforming the Difficult Child and Transforming the Intense Child Workbook. What are the basic principles of this approach to parenting? The 3 strands.
Strand 1: Refuse to energize the negative. What are some of the challenges parents face when applying this? What are some common ways we might accidentally energize the negative?
Strand 2: Energize the positive. active recognition, experiential recognition, proactive recognition, creative recognition.
Is there a problem with too much praise?
Strand 3: Absolute clarity on limits and consequences. How to set limits?
Intensity is not something that a person outgrows.

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Handling Screens and Technology as a Family

March 1, 2023

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When should your child get a smartphone? What can you do if your child spends too much time playing video games? How can we protect our kids from the downsides of social media? Join us to talk about parenting and technology with Krista Boan, co-founder of the nonprofit Screen Sanity.
In this episode, we cover:
Digital Health:

Screen Sanity’s 5 Rules of Thumb.
Ride, practice, drive” approach for device and app introduction.
How to handle a foster, adoptive, or kinship placement of a child that has already gone down that slippery slope of too much screen time and tech. How do you establish reasonable boundaries?
Is it still recommended that parents establish a "no expectation of privacy" policy for online activity? At what age/stage should that start to change?
How to handle when your family has vastly different rules from your child’s friend’s families when you don’t want your child to feel left out?

Screentime:

What is a reasonable rule of thumb for how much screen time a child should be allowed by age?
What is considered screen time?
- School work?
- Facetime with family or friends?
- Drawing or coding games?
- Social media?
How do we handle cell phones and tablets when we see more negative behavior from any usage?

Smartphones:

At what age should a child be given a smartphone? What questions should you ask before you give a child a smartphone?
What are the alternatives to a smartphone? What are good starter phones?

Video Games:

How to manage the addictive nature of video games?
How to strike the balance between limiting the time of video games when this is where many kids socialize.
Screen Sanity’s Video Game Decision Tree

Social Media:

What are the pitfalls, and how can we protect our kids?
When should kids be allowed to be on social media?
How can parents keep up with what their kids are doing on social media?
The Social Media Playbook is a parent-child workbook for starting powerful conversations about social media. Families are prompted to dig deeper into the purpose of social media in their lives and question the false standards it places on its users.

Pornography: