My Child's Disrespect and Disobedience is Creating Resentment - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
09/27/25
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Question: I have resentment against my (soon-to-be adopted) child’s mom, who is an addict. I get frustrated with his disrespect & disobedience, and bitterness & resentment rise up. He also respects my husband way more than me. I am trying so hard not to let it show or to take it out on him. I need help!
Resources:
- Parenting Children with Challenging Behaviors
- Prenatal Exposure, Part 1: Parenting Babies through Elementary Ages
- Parenting a Challenging Child: A Collaborative Approach
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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Connecting with Teens
September 24, 2025
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Do you dread the teen years? Or, if you're in the midst of parenting teens, do you struggle to find ways to connect? This week, we interview Dr. Melody Aguayo, a parenting coach specializing in working with at-risk children and their families and the founder of Real Child Consulting, LLC. She is the mom of two adopted kids.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Parents wonder why their easy and natural connection with their kids changed, and they now feel on the outs and have to work harder. What is the developmental stage that is happening between the ages of about 13 and 18 or 19?
- Teens act like they don’t need us, when I believe they need us even more, to be present, but in a distinctly different way. I think that our emotions as a parent can sometimes interfere with connecting with teens.
- Change our expectation of what “connection” means with teens.
- Parents report feeling powerless in parenting when their kids reach their teen years. What is the essence of our power as parents?
- Our goals for our teens are to become responsible and independent. How can we parent in such a way to foster these goals?
- Let’s address some common issues we face when parenting teens:
- Arguing. How to turn an argument into a conversation?
- Spending too much time on technology
- Running with the wrong crowd
- Tips for connecting and building trust and appreciation with your teen!
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Tweens and Teens: Managing Tech & Mental Health
October 1, 2025
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Do you worry about the impacts that screen time, social media, or gaming have on your tween and teens' mental health? We spoke to Brittany Anderson, an author, certified play and narrative intelligence practitioner, and the founder of Renala, which helps families become creative, vision-driven leaders—beginning at home.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What are the most common concerns that parents and caregivers have about their tween or teen’s tech use?
- Are those concerns more about the amount of time kids spend on devices, the content they’re seeking out, or the content they stumble upon?
- What are the differences in concerns between parents of pre-teens/tweens (11–13) and older teens (16–18)?
- What does current research say about how much screen time is considered healthy—or at least not harmful—for our tweens and teens?
- Is the amount of time as important as how that time is being spent?
- Are there particular times of day when device use is more problematic for mental health (e.g., late at night)?
- What types of online content are most worrisome for the tweens and teens in our homes?
- What mental health effects are we seeing most often in tweens and teens related to tech use?
- What are the symptoms of mental health that parents and caregivers should look for?
- Why might kids with a history of trauma and loss, prenatal exposure to alcohol or drugs, or neurodiversity be more vulnerable to tech-related mental health challenges?
- How do issues like attachment, identity, and resilience intersect with device use?
- Are there specific risks associated with online relationships, gaming communities, or social media for these children?
- What can adoptive and foster parents, as well as caregivers such as grandparents raising their grandchildren, do proactively to reduce some of these risks before problems arise?
- What role do boundaries, monitoring, and co-viewing/co-playing have in prevention?
- How can they help their child develop self-protective, self-regulation skills, such as learning to prioritize their own mental health and manage their device use?
- If a tween or teen has already had a harmful tech-related experience, what steps should parents/caregivers take immediately?
- What does a healthy “tech culture” in a home look like for tweens and teens?
- One piece of equipping and empowering advice for leading with purpose and mission around the issues of technology, devices, and tweens’ and teens’ mental health
RESOURCES:
- Managing Technology and Screens
- What Resource Parents Should Know About Prenatal Exposure
- How to Cultivate Resilience In Your Kids
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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