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Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
11/16/24
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Question: My husband and I adopted our nephews four months ago. The two boys are sons of my niece; she gave her kids to the Family Department five years ago, and last year, we at last knew about the boys. They've been a year with us. I have a daughter, 21, and a son, 17, who were okay with the adoption, but now they say they feel this is not their home; they don’t feel at peace in their house and think It was not a good idea to adopt, because of the hard situations with the kids. How can we affirm to our biological children that we did the correct thing to give the kids a family and that there is a process we must go through as a family to adapt?
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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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Why Our Kids Drive Us Crazy Over the Holidays
November 13, 2024
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Do your kids drive you crazy over the holidays? Does their behavior escalate? Join our conversation to learn why and what you can do about it. We will talk with Erin Nasmyth is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a Master’s in Social Work. She is the co-founder of Adoption Support Alliance, which provides services and support to adoptive families. She has worked in the public and private adoption and foster care system.
In this episode, we cover:
- Is it common to see behavioral changes for the worse during the holiday season?
- What are some of the behaviors you might see that allow our kids to drive us crazy?
- What are some of the stressors that we may not recognize that cause these behaviors?
- New things
- New people
- Change in routines
- Parental distraction
- Past history with holidays
- Too much of everything-sensory overload
- Practical ideas of how can we make the holidays smoother for our kids and for you
- Ideas on how to get our family onboard for making these changes to our holidays to make it easier for our kids?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Transitioning Home as a Newly Adoptive Family
November 20, 2024
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Are you planning to adopt or have you recently adopted? If so, you need to listen to this discussion about what to expect during the first few weeks or months you are home! Our guests are Michelle Kennedy and Deborah Artis. Michelle Kennedy has been a social worker with Methodist Home for Children for 27 years. She has direct care experience in residential and foster care services and has been working with youth and families in the foster-to-adopt process since 2005. Deborah Artis is a social worker and the Senior Program Director of foster care, adoption, and post-adoption with Children’s Home Society, where she has worked for 30 years.
In this episode, we cover:
Adopting a Newborn
- What are some common emotions when adopting a newborn?
- What are some common stresses when adopting a newborn?
- How may the revocation period affect the transition to new adoptive parenting?
- Expectations of extended family during this transition period.
- How do the stresses of newly adopted families differ from a family that gives birth to their child?
- How does the pre-adoption process affect this transition to new parenthood?
- What are some feelings that come up about birth parents after the baby comes home?
- Handling grief of the birth family.
- Realities of open adoptions.
- Feeling like the presence of a birth mom makes the adoptive mom less of a “real” mom.
- The balance of power shifting from the expectant/birth mom to the adoptive mom.
- How much of your child’s “story” should you share?
- How can infertility struggles impact the transition period?
Adopting a Child Past Infancy
- What are some common emotions when adopting a child from foster care or through international adoption?
- What are some common stresses when adopting a child past infancy?
- Integrating the new child into a family with other kids.
- How to help your child and you settle into becoming a new family.
Post Adoption Depression
- What is post-adoption depression?
- What are the symptoms?
- Blocked care.
- How can post-adoption depression impact parenting?
- How common is post-adoption depression?
- Can fathers also have post-adoption depression?
- Who is at risk for post-adoption depression? Are there ways to predict which people are more prone to post-adoption depression?
- What are some steps to take to prevent post-adoption depression?
- What should you do if you think you are suffering from post-adoption depression?
Additional Resources:
- 4 Tried and True Tips for a Smooth Transition Home with Adopted Kids
- Transitioning Home with Your Newly Adopted Baby
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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