IVF from the Male Partner's Perspective
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
10/05/22
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What's IVF like for the male partner? We spend a lot of time talking about the experience of infertility treatment for the person going through treatment, but what about their partner? We talk with Keegan Prue, the author of "The IVF Dad." He and his wife Olivia went through two rounds of IVF and suffered two miscarriages before welcoming their daughter.
In this episode, we cover:
- Tell us your story to parenthood.
- The imagined role of the male partner: strong, supportive, and not needing support.
- Media messages about men that impact how they can respond to infertility: men take action to fix problems, showing emotion makes you weak, real men don’t ask for or need help, real men are virile, being a father is part of what makes you a man.
- What are some things that you learned that the male partner can do to improve the quality or quantity of sperm.
- What are some common emotions men or those supporting a person trying to get pregnant might feel when they start infertility treatment: anger; embarrassment; jealousy; fear that is won’t work; worry (over costs, impact of the treatment on their partner and their relationship), feeling less manly.
- How can the supporting partner take care of themselves during treatment?
- The partner’s role in giving the shots. What are some common feelings they experience?
- Tips for staying connected with your partner through the stress of fertility treatment.
- Dealing with miscarriage yourself while supporting your partner.
- The role of infertility nurses. You wanted to nominate your infertility nurse for sainthood. What did she do that made the stressful experience of infertility and its treatment more bearable for you as the male partner.
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Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
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Finding an Adoption and Foster Competent Therapist
September 28, 2022
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Do you think your child or your family would benefit from counseling? How do you find the right therapist and how can you tell in advance if they will be a good fit for your family? We talk with Debbie Riley, a Licensed Clinical Marriage and Family Therapist and CEO of the Center for Adoption Support and Education.
In this episode, we cover:
- What type of professional can provide therapy to an adopted or foster child or family?
- What’s the difference between being adoption competent and adoption informed?
- Why is competency in adoption or foster issues important?
- What do we mean be an “adoption competent therapist”? What makes a therapist adoption competent?
- Is adoption/foster competence the same as trauma competence?
- How can you tell if a therapist is competent to handle adoption or foster issues? Are there specific trainings that provide adoption competency?
- Creating a Family provides a list of ways to find an adoption competent therapist on our Adoption Therapy section.
- Is one type of therapeutic model of treatment more effective for adoptive children and families? Theraplay, Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy, Trust-Based Relational Intervention (TBRI), Narrative therapy, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), etc.
- Should therapy with adopted kids on adoption issues involve just the child, or the child and the parent?
- What is home-based therapy and are there advantages to this type of therapy for adoptive and foster families.
- How can you find a therapist that will provide therapy within the home? (One source is http://www.familycenteredtreatment.org/)
- Is therapy via tele-health or via teleconferencing as effective for adopted children? For families? How to know if it will work for your family? Ways to make it more effective.
- How can a parent determine if the therapist is a good fit for the child and family? What questions should they ask?
- How many sessions to try?
- When to seek a therapist?
- How to find a therapist with lived experience of being adopted?
Resources
- How to find an adoption competent therapist?
- A Guide to Selecting an Adoption or Foster Therapist
- 10 Reasons for Parents to be in Child’s Therapy Session
- Beneath the Mask: Understanding Adopted Teens & Beneath the Mask: For Teen Adoptees: Teens and Young Adults Share Their Stories
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Unexpected Stresses on Newly Adoptive Parents
October 12, 2022
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Are you getting ready to adopt or have just adopted? Do you wonder what the experience will really be like and what you can do to prepare? Join our conversation with Dr. Jennifer Bliss, LCSW and Director of Adoptions and Foster Care at Vista Del Mar and Family Services in Los Angeles; and Molly Berger, MSW and Adoption Social Worker at Adoption Center of Illinois.In this episode, we cover:
Domestic Infant Adoption:
- Process
- Typical stresses adoptive parents feel
- Lack of sleep
- Not deserving to complain
- Feeling like a babysitter
- Not feeling love at first site
- Impact of infertility struggles on transitioning into parenthood
- Stresses with parenting a child with neonatal abstinence syndrome
- Stresses with open adoption
Older child adoption through foster care or international adoption:
- Process
- Typical stresses adoptive parents feel
- Unrealistic expectations of the child and of yourself
- Love at first site
- Feeling like a babysitter
- Language issues
- Cultural issues
- Parental attachment styles-How the way we were parented influences how we parent.
- Challenging behaviors
- Sibling issues
Change is stressful and adding a child to your family is a huge change regardless of how the child joins the family. What can newly adoptive parents do to prepare in advance and to cope in those first few months?
How has the idea of cocooning impacted stress?
- Doc McStuffins, "Baby McStuffins" (Season 3)
- Sesame Street, "Gina Adopts a Baby"
- Suggested Book List on Preparing Children for Adoption of a Sibling
- Suggested Book List on Explaining Adoption To Birth Siblings of Adopted Children
- Creating a Family resources on Disrupting Birth Order
- Creating a Family courses on Combining Kids by Birth and Adoption
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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