I Really Don't Want an Open Adoption! - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
07/13/24
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Question: We have applied to adopt a baby. We’re more or less being told that if we don’t agree to an open adoption, we’ll never get chosen by a birth mom. But, I really don’t want an open adoption. I think kids need just one mom and dad and opening up our family to others will just be confusing for everyone. But, I’m afraid that we’ll never get chosen if I say this.
Resources:
- Open Adoption (Resource page)
- Listening to Adoptee Voices
- Understanding the Birth Parents' Experience
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Parent's Guide to Working with the Schools on Behavior
July 10, 2024
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Do you have a child who acts out at school? Do you struggle with how to work with the school to help your child? If so, don't miss today's interview with Sarah Naish, the CEO and Founder of the Centre of Excellence in Child Trauma and the author of many books on foster parenting, including The A-Z of Trauma-Informed Teaching.
In this episode, we cover:
- Why do our kids often have behavioral problems?
- What are some typical behaviors that are problematic in school?
- What is it about school that exacerbates behavior issues?
- How much training does the average teacher have on the long-term impact of trauma on a child?
- How much training does the average teacher have on the long-term impact of prenatal exposure to alcohol and drugs on a child?
- Many of our kids will have an IEP or 504 Plan. How to address behavioral issues in these plans?
- Let’s say you have a child who is acting out (i.e., being defiant, not following rules, disrupting class, and other externalized behavioral issues); what would be your suggestions for a parent to work with the school on these behaviors?
- Let’s say you have a child who is withdrawing or fading into the woodwork (i.e., internalized behavioral issues); what would be your suggestions for a parent to work with the school on these behaviors?
- That doesn’t mean that there doesn’t need to be consequences.
- Question from our audience: Child is being defiant in school and refuses to finish her assignments. Teacher sends the unfinished assignments home to be completed by the next day, in addition to the child’s homework. Parents are spending the entire evening working with child to finish the work. How would you suggest handling it?
- Thoughts on homework?
- Blame, embarrassment
- Homeschooling
- What are some ways parents can start the school year off right to set the stage for working with the school to help their child succeed?
- Tips for parenting in working with the schools.
- Share info
- Share trauma-informed teaching resources.
- Be honest and upfront about what you will and won’t do. Ex. Homework.
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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What do teachers understand about adoption? What are the misperceptions? We talk with two researchers on this topic: Dr. Hal Grotevant, the Rudd Family Foundation Chair in Psychology at the University of Massachusetts Amherst, and Dr. Abbie Goldberg, a Professor of Psychology and current Director of Women’s & Gender Studies at Clark University.
In this episode, we cover:
- How knowledgeable were teachers in understanding the impact of trauma?
- How knowledgeable were teachers in understanding the impact of attachment?
- How knowledgeable were teachers in understanding the impact of adoption?
- How knowledgeable were teachers in understanding the impact of prenatal exposure?
- Was there a perception that adopted kids were “troubled”?
- What did they know about open adoption?
- How accepting were teachers to the idea of modifying assignments to reflect diverse families, including those formed by adoption?
- Do teachers know whether kids are adopted? Do they need to know? Do they feel comfortable asking for this information?
- Did teachers present lessons that included the diversity that adoption represents?
- Does teacher training, either formal or in-service, often include information on adoption?
- What can parents do to help their child’s teacher be more adoption-aware or adoption-sensitive?
- Where can listeners get more information on your research?
- The “Teachers and Adopted Children” Survey and the Factsheet for Teacher can be found here.
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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