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Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
07/19/25
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Question: My husband and I adopted our daughter in 2019, and she is now 5. As of a week ago, we were matched with a birth mother who is due in six weeks. We have explained the process to our daughter (we made a book about our life, and one day someone will pick us), but now that we’ve been chosen, what is the best way to approach this with my daughter? We have several of the books from your (wonderful) book list, but not many pertain to same sex parents who are bringing home an adopted sibling. How do we prepare our daughter for the possibility of having a sibling, while also being open and honest about the possibility that this baby might not be ours to take home?
Resources:
- Prepare Children for the Adoption of a Sibling (Suggested Books)
- Books for Transracially Adopted Kids (Suggested Books)
- Talking with Kids about Adoption (Resource page)
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Attachment-Informed Tools for Working with Kids
July 16, 2025
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Are you looking for practical strategies to build attachment with your child? Jeanette Yoffe, MA, MFT, is a psychotherapist specializing in adoption and foster care with over 20 years of experience treating children with complex trauma. Her new book, The Traumatized and At-Risk Youth Toolbox: Over 160 Attachment-Informed Interventions for Working with Kids and Families in Foster Care and Beyond offers specific strategies and tools parents and caregivers can build into their family rhythms to promote regulation and healing in their homes.
In this episode, we discuss:
- Overview of trauma’s impacts on the brain, on learning, regulation, and on the ability to trust.
- What does co-regulation look like between a caregiver and a child with a trauma history?
- What are some simple, everyday things caregivers can do at home to support a child’s self-regulation?
- What practical tools – activities or routines – will help us build emotional safety in our homes?
- Why is play such a powerful tool for connection and healing?
- Trauma often mimics ADHD or overlaps with it. How to help teachers understand what’s really going on.
- How can parents or relative caregivers support our kids for homework, without turning the evening into a power struggle?
- What kinds of professionals should we look for?
Resources:
- Working with Traumatized Children in the Classroom
- What is Adoption?
- What is Foster Care?
- What is Family Court?
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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Trauma-Informed Therapy: Finding the Right Fit for Your Family
July 23, 2025
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What should you look for when you are considering therapy for your child or your family? How do you find the right fit for your child's needs? We talk today with Kelly Raudenbush, Executive Director of The Sparrow Fund, a non-profit that provides therapeutic services for foster and adoptive children and their grown-ups. She is a child and family therapist with an MA degree in counseling and a certificate in clinical infant and early childhood mental health. She's also an adoptive mom.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What are some of the common reasons families seek therapy for their child or family unit?
- When is it time to seek a therapist?
- What types of professionals can provide therapy?
- Is there a difference between therapy and counseling?
- What makes a therapist trauma-informed?
- What’s the difference between being adoption-competent and adoption-informed?
- What should parents look for to determine if a potential therapist is competent to handle the trauma, adoption, or foster issues they are facing?
- Where can parents or caregivers go to find a therapist with the lived experience of being adopted? What might the benefits be in seeking a therapist with this lived experience?
- Can you list the more common therapeutic models of treatment that adoptive, foster, or relative caregiver families might consider?
- When should therapy with our kids involve just the child, or the child and the parent?
- What questions can parents or caregivers ask to determine if the therapist is a good fit for the child and family?
- Are there additional or specific considerations for therapy that should be addressed if our child has experienced sexual abuse?
- What is home-based therapy and what are the advantages to this type of therapy for adoptive, foster, or relative caregiving families?
- Is therapy via tele-health or via teleconferencing as effective as in-person for our families?
Additional Resources:
- https://sparrow-fund.org/
- Therapy Resources for Adoptive, Foster, and Kinship Families
- Adoptee and Foster Alumni Voices
- Therapists: Parents Should Be With Their Kids for Adoptive or Foster Therapy Sessions
- A Guide to Selecting An Adoption Or Foster Therapist
- Family Centered Treatment
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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