How Common Are Failed Adoption Matches? - Weekend Wisdom
Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care
02/11/24
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Question: Last week my husband and I flew across the country to meet our potential adoptive baby. We had been matched 5 weeks earlier and were full of happiness. We’ve always known the risks of having a fall through but based on the case, we didn’t think it would be the case. It was. Despite being in contact with birthmom via email and text, getting her updates and baby pictures, she ghosted us and the agency. We met her and birthfather, she let us take pictures holding the baby and gave the agency’s social worker some missing paperwork. She had a change of heart last minute which is fine, but what made things more painful was that she never informed us.
Resources:
- Failed Adoption Matches: How Common? How Costly? How to Survive?
- Twelve Signs that an Adoption May Fail
- A Panel of Birth Moms Talk About Adoption
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Adoption Microaggressions Parents Need to Know About
February 7, 2024
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What are the microaggressions or stigmas in the world of adoption and how do they impact adoptees, birth parents, and adoptive parents? We talk with Dr. Amanda Baden, a Professor and the Doctoral Program Director at Montclair State University in the graduate counseling program and a licensed psychologist in private practice in Manhattan. She is an adult adoptee from Hong Kong and an adoptive parent of a daughter from China.
In this episode, we cover:
- What are microaggessions in general and how do they apply to adoption?
- These microaggressions apply to all members of the adoption kinship network (adoptees; adoptive parents, grandparents, siblings; first/birth parents/grandparents).
- Where do some of the unconscious attitudes and stigmas toward adoption come from?
- Common microaggression themes for adoptees:
- biology is best/normative is based upon the belief that biological ties are superior, more permanent, and more authentic than ties formed through adoption or foster care
- bad seed adoptees or damaged goods
- grateful adoptees, a third theme, refers to the idea of adoptees as both lucky and privileged to have been adopted
- cultural limbo and invalidation of heritage
- What are some of the microagressions against birth parents?
- What are some of the microaggressions against adoptive parents?
- Lack of intent to hurt.
- How can microsaggressions impact the mental health?
Danger of a Single Story by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Please leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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The Art of Talking With Kids
February 14, 2024
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We talk to our kids all day, but how can we use these conversations to help them reach their full potential? Our guest is Rebecca Roland, a speech pathologist, Harvard lecturer, and author of the book The Art of Talking with Children.
In this episode, we discuss:
- What is rich talk, and why is it important?
- You talk about different types of conversations. What are some of the different conversations we should have with our children?
- Conversations for learning.
- Conversations for empathy.
- Conversations for social skills.
- Conversations for confidence and independence.
- Conversations for building relationships.
- Conversations for openness.
- Conversations to promote joy and creativity.
This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them. Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
Please leave us a rating or review RateThisPodcast.com/creatingafamily
Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:
- Weekly podcasts
- Weekly articles/blog posts
- Resource pages on all aspects of family building
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