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Creating a Family: Talk about Adoption, Foster & Kinship Care

08/30/25

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Questions: I am a 58 single man and I am considering fostering.

  1. My first question is how much of a bias is there against men?
  2. What are the unique challenges that single foster dads face that discourage so many?
  3. What can we do to get more single foster dads to help families reunify, foster, and possibly adopt?

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
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Are you educated and informed on the issues around weed and vaping, including THC, nicotine, and the signs of addiction? Listen to this interview with Dr. Krishna White. She is an attending physician at the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia, with board certifications in Pediatrics, Adolescent Medicine, and Addiction Medicine.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Can you explain why kids who’ve experienced trauma, prenatal substance exposure, or who are neurodivergent may be at greater risk for turning to substances like marijuana or vaping?
  • How are kids typically using marijuana today? (edibles, vaping THC, traditional smoking, oils)
  • Are kids generally aware of what they’re consuming, especially when it comes to the potency of today’s marijuana?
  • What are some of the short-term effects of marijuana use in adolescents?
  • What long-term impacts are you seeing in your clinical practice, especially for kids whose brains are still developing?
  • Now let’s move to vaping – what it is, why it’s so popular, and what we need to know about how kids are using it.
  • Can you break down what vaping is and what substances kids may be inhaling?
  • Why is vaping so appealing to tweens and teens, even those who’ve never used another substance?
  • What are some of the immediate health concerns tied to vaping in young people?
  • And long-term—what are you most worried about when it comes to kids who are vaping regularly?
  • What strategies can adoptive, foster, or kinship caregivers use to help buffer or “substance-proof” their kids?
  • How early should conversations about marijuana and vaping begin?
  • For kids who already have a higher vulnerability, what are some protective factors or environments that help reduce their risk?
  • What are some signs that a child might be using marijuana or vaping—even if they’re trying to hide it?
  • If a child has already started using, how can caregivers respond in a way that’s both firm and supportive?
  • When does occasional experimentation cross the line into something that needs professional help?
  • What are nicotine pouches – why are they appealing and what are the short or long term impacts we should know about?
  • What would you say to a caregiver who’s feeling overwhelmed or ashamed that this is part of their child’s story?
  • If you could offer just one piece of advice to a caregiver trying to navigate this with their teen, what would it be?

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

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Adopting Older Kids

September 3, 2025

68m

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Are you considering adopting a child over the age of 5? Listen to this interview with Sarah Hansen and Simi Riesner. Sarah is the Director of International Advocacy at the Gladney Center for Adoption, with over 20 years of experience supporting adoptive families and children. She is also an adoptive parent to an older child from Thailand. Simi is the Executive Director of Mazi Adoption and Family Services, as well as a licensed social worker and foster parent. Simi also has lived experience as an adult adoptee, and is passionate about maintaining sibling relationships and promoting transparency within the adoption community.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • What are the age ranges you see being the most difficult to find adoptive homes for?
  • Generally the greatest need in both international and foster care adoption is kids 5+
  • Why are many prospective parents are almost afraid of adopting a tween or teen.
  • What are the common challenging behaviors parents may face when adopting an older child: (keeping in mind that not all older children will struggle with these behaviors!)
    • Lying, stealing
    • Lagging social skills
    • Acting out physically or sexually
    • Sibling rivalry
    • Regression of already developed skills (potty training, sleep, communication etc)
  • What behaviors might parents expect to see in the children already living in the home that are likely impacted by the behaviors of a newly adopted sibling? Or influenced by the new sibling?
  • Why do older children behave in some of these challenging ways? What’s driving them?
    • Grief, loss
    • Trauma, abuse, neglect
    • Prenatal exposure to drugs/alcohol
    • Fear, unpredictability, Fight/flight/freeze response
    • Constant hypervigilance
    • Coping or survival skills
    • Mental health challenges
    • Undiagnosed learning challenges
  • What are a few specific strategies to build trust and felt-safety for a newly adopted older child?
  • What suggestions do you offer families who are adopting tweens and teens – especially when those young people have had very few limits or boundaries around them prior to adoption?
  • What are the signs that maybe an older child is not attaching securely or catching on to the idea that they are now part of this family?
  • Practical tips to implement today when considering Older Child Adoption

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.
Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

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